Husband Hates To Clean His Baby... Hates To Wash His Mother Cloths

I knew, As a indian wife, i should not expect sensitivity from husbands. But from long time onwards my relationship with my husband is not much close...we do have sex, but it is up to sex only. not up to souls.

having 2 kids...from 10 yr of marriage life & recently brought new home. we both are working..actually he dont like me as working wife..his dream is always house wife who can say YES all time to him & who can be his slave with name of wife. But i safeguarded myself from his dream & successfully i created barricade with him in past 3 years. even though we are in same house, i & my baby girl are in one room. he & our toddler boy are in another room. Luckly both are earning & we are having financial dependency on each other...that is bitter truth. and one more reason is kids.

Now coming to his behaviour, he is short tempered & very possessive son(my inlaws are living with us from my marriage point onwards by putting their age as big reason. but they are always healthy to their own time pass works, that is another story)

I am slowly hating my husband..yeh, this feeling strengthening slowly in me & my soul wanting some other fantasy guy who might be feminist.

Reson:
1. My husband always enjoys service from mother & wife & even from other ladies like his sister & aunt. But he always escapes when there is situation comes like if he needs to help any of them during their illness.
2. He always suggest, bring medicines to care people.Do over action also in talks. But will not sit & console that patient. instead of that he will keep remind them how that person is neglected their health so on...and it caused to their illness.
3. He will play with my 2 yr old daughter. But his face became very irritative if she Pee on him, he hates to clean my toddler son ear holes.
4. He hates to enter into bathroom to clean kids Poo area & to help then at commode point.
5. when i am in periods, he behave like busy & he dont like to comfort me.He will try to avoid me because i may ask help.
6. His mother having Mental illness from his child hood onwards. But before marriage this is not revealed. Recently again she felt into that illusion mode for long 10days around...so she forgets to flush, she forgets her nighty in bathroom bucket, she forgetting her eating behaviour also..finally she is not behaving normal person. Even in such case also, he tried to offer medicines which prescribed almost 14 years ago by a psychiatrist. That mean he never take her to doctor in last 14 years to check her mental illness which almost repeating for every 6 months. Those tablets are sleeping tablets which will make her more drowsy & always keep he on bed. I suggested many times there may be new medicines might introduced, but he never listen. Ofcourse, i too dont care her much because she is major reason for my premature son.( all gents in his family are like this only)

So finally he is kind of "touch me not" in point of service to his daughter, his mother & his wife. Always feels like he is doing much work then other indian mens at home chores. But its not, he never care kitchen chroes & cleaning works, home repairs. only care finance savings and acting like he is taking over all burden in him.

To explain him more...we got vaccinated 2 days ago, He read many articles in online from 4 days onwards about side effect of symptoms. I never cared that injection & i am doing my daily flow by forgetting that vaccine drive. But he is not...even though he did not get any post vaccine symptoms, he has taken 2 days leave & feeling that he is sick.

I am well feminist & i need a guy who shouldn't have this gender discrimination in life, and having broad mind to help others even guy like who can clean needy people personal parts. Ofcourse i will do such range of service if i like person. So my hating levels on him gradually increasing..but maintaining silence & keeping him in distant.


I believe KARMA, so i am thinking that his actions will trigger back to him in future. But i am afraid bit to live with this kind of personality for next 30 years around..because these kind of people are always utilize people around them, but not help back in such a way. Am i need to serve this guy as wife at his old age who hates to sit with me during periods.