Hello Everyone... Hope everyone is going well.. I know there are many positivity threads going on and I have been participating in some too. Still I am starting this one to know about the ways to become extremely positive. I live in a joint family and my mil is living with me. I know I am lucky enough to be with her and I learned a lot from her. Due to this setup I have to adjust with various things like at every point I have been observed and others too say negative about me to mil. Due to which even after doing a lot efforts to make her understand my point of view she don't always feel good for me. I don't want to talk about it more but I said all that to make a background. I am educated, not doing any job and have 2 kids 5 and 7. My point is I lack in many things in me. Not able to make a routine of kids to study. They are small and due to this online class setup they get more freedom to avoid studies. I also don't take much stress for my development. Sometimes I do but don't go for long. Most of the time I keep struggling with this unstable routine or thinking negative about all like how they could do this or that. I can't say anything to them but my mind is most of the time busy thinking all the ****. I do many ways to come out but it works only for few days. Something or the other from any of the family members disturb my mental stability. I feel like I will go mad and can't sleep at night. I do yoga and other exercise but not regular. I am reading geeta these days. Do some more prayers at morning and in the evening. I try to keep myself away from negative thoughts and try to remove it at first but this too don't go for long. I read many posts of IL and know many things and apply them too. But I need some thing extra to keep myself ultra positive which may further help me with my kids and my growth. I want to focus more on this side. But situations don't allow me for long. I got many short successes but now looking for something that can go for long. Thanks for reading and looking forward for some real suggestions that can help me out.
That is a good first post. In learning physics, we learn about how to make glass more positive by rubbing it with silk. When you rub it with wool, it would become more negative. This same principle [electrostatics] works on girls. Rubbing good, and very soft and expensive silk dresses and sarees can make a girl more positive. Try it and you will come back and endorse that view for sure.
Big hugs. You are doing all you can. Just keep doing everything for you and family (Kids and You), as you can. let go if you can't. It is normal. Some days are good than others. It will change. Keep at it. Maintain the routine as much as you can. This will help a lot.
Your frame of mind will be much better if others don’t nitpick, nag and criticize you all the time. Don’t put all the blame on yourself.
There's nothing like ultimate/ultra positivity. Have you seen any human being with such a positive attitude? Whether in your friends circle or relatives or in this forum or any where for that matter . It's okay to be "not okay" Sometimes. It's okay to have negative thoughts. All you want to focus is that negative thoughts don't occupy majority portion of your brain . If you plot a graph of events(or life) in x axis and positivity on Y axis remember it's always a sinusoidal wave pattern and what you are trying to achieve is a linear graph Pattern is not possible to achieve . Something like image attached below. Don't pressurise yourself for a perfect positive mindset. We are human beings with various emotions. Do not try and supress any emotion which is natural. Edited to add : I consider myself unlucky to stay with in laws and I can openly share this fact in this forum but it's okay I'm not Pressurising myself to feel super positive about it..
Bhagavat Geeta will tell you like no one else... to persue ultimate 'formula' is going after the moon... we are all far from perfect and its human not to be... Go with the flow and give it your heart... enjoy the little nothings with children and time spent with a cheerful mum is time well spent for them. Plan little things for them and take joy out of them. Leave the 'could have's and 'should have's.. you aready have . About other people stealing your peace; 'You are not what others think, you are what you answer to' (Answer here is giving mindspace).. You are already doing well , pat yourself!
Thanks for the reply sir. You mean to say that I should wear silk dresses to be positive...??? Will try for that...
Thanks for the hug dear. I know the days are different but I am not able to manage things most of the time that disturb me a lot.
Thanks for the reply dear...Yes you're right. No one want to feel wrong about them so to make their doing correct they try to prove other wrong. But one should not lose the confidence with all this. Still not possible many times.
Thanks for the reply dear. You explained very clearly with the help of graph. But one always want to achieve that perfect graph. I observed that people who are more successful have a positive attitude towards life. They don't sit back with all this nonsense instead they keep their focus on their own development. I too try a lot to not take all this seriously but it's not possible for me most of the time.
