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Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by Needtobestrong, Apr 18, 2021.

  1. nandinimithun

    nandinimithun IL Hall of Fame

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    I feel this is the only acceptable explanation, The Karma.... Why good people suffer and bad dont.... Hence comes the picture of rebirth and the cycle of life.....

    Punarapi jananam, punarapi maranam....
    Probably life is beyond mere birth and death.
     
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    We will never know... or may be we will never be capable to see.

    So wise is to realise that if any thing could change around you it would be only because you look at it differently.
    For the ungreatful people: choose to give what you could afford to lose. If anything at all comes back, its a good surprise.

    However there is joy in giving people who deserve it. Although they wont be able to pay you back, its a deep good feeling which will give you a pleasant high.

    Like a previous poster said... lives have been wasted in waiting for others karma to kick in...
     
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    Needtobestrong Platinum IL'ite

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    Thanks all...
    I havent been rather depressed since past one year due to personal issues, professional disappointments and major health problems.
    It was on my mind all the time as to how in laws are able to go about their routine peacefully after troubling me..why they don’t face consequences of their actions and why I’m not getting rewards for good deeds...( adjusting with these 2 people is big achievement only)
    But my thoughts are not pure either, I confess..lot of negativity in me.....
    I m filled with resentment, anger, irritation, jealousy, tiredness, nostalgia of the olden days etc..
    Actually these problems became worst and got magnified after Covid pandemic started.
    Is this Covid pandemic the result of bad Karma of bad morals and bad deed by human race as a whole..humans violated the environment and upset the balance of nature and this has caused this virus which affects animals to mutate into a deadly virus causing havoc worldwide..
    It was a very thoughtful discussion, got many insightful replies and different pints of view from people who believe and don’t believe in Karma.
    Thanks friends, really appreciate your insights, hope this will help me put my expectations aside and not overthink. pls keep the replies coming..
     
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  4. nandinimithun

    nandinimithun IL Hall of Fame

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    We are all humans and we have all the emotions, good or bad.....
    Sometimes they say difficulties are required in life, to train us and to mould us into a better, stronger and a wonderful human being.

    We all have negativity within us, whenever you feel that, stop and observe instead of letting it grow, this is what i have been doing offlate. It is helping me a lot to learn about myself, to go within and to ask myself, who am i really....

    Loads of love and a big tight hug to you
    Nandu
     
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    Negativity is natural but dont get comfortable in it.

    Most of us ( Atleast me)have been thru hurtful people. My case, they had me thinking on how one can be lacking empathy completely. Eg; all they could talk about at my dad's funeral was about the tasty food they got served. These were the people I expected some kind of empathy.They hadnt stopped there, they just selfishly rip thru others trust in them having no ounce of remorse and sleeping 8hrs thru the night waking up planning to rip more.

    They are still that way, I cant cut them off. What gave me back my 'me' was that now I have zero expectations from them. I already know they will rip so I give them what I can lose, it will be ripped but thats ok. I am still holding onto bigger things and they will NEVER get hold of them.

    Will Karma bite them?.. I dont care. I dont think of what is going to happen or if they will live good lives. If they live good lives, good for them.

    I will live a good one too, atleast most of it is in my hands and God made me fairly able by giving me a life.

    Good luck.. you got this.
     
  6. preeti6years

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    This is exactly the same me a year back. Very very depressed. Thinking about the disastrous past, not concentrating over kid, office work, self nothing. Added to that ILs dramas, showdowns with DH what not.
    I could not see the light at the end of the tunnel at all. My health was in a bad shape. This went on nearly six months. Things improved only when my health improved. My mind set started stabilising more and more. I could see what I had done to myself. Slowly I took control of myself. Got back and started to work on my cooking skills again. I started working out to keep myself occupied and fit. I had decided strongly to shed those extra pounds which I gained by staying home. Started diverting my thoughts and today I can proudly say that I am in much better situation than what I was. My performance at work improved. I lost weight and started feeling nice. Still a long way to go.
    So our thoughts are in our control. I definetly agree with you on the Karma part. But thinking on such things again and again further throws us deeper into the mess. Come out of it. Change your thoughts.
    Concetrate on yourself, kid and your work.
    Improve on your interests and hobbies and interests in free time.
    Surely you will start seeing changes
     
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    You’re right...I’m really caught up in a circle of negative thoughts.
    I’m not working now and not getting job offers or job opportunities due to Covid.
    But trying my best to divert myself with hobbies, interests, online classes, good music and movies.
     
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    OP,
    Do you have any idea on how your negativity repells others. It will reflect in your face and body language.

    In this covid time, having food, clothes, shelter, job etc are such a privillage and blessing. Look at the positives.

    Sometimes, we think what is the point of being good when others treat us badly, esp spouse. But if we do things without much expectations, slowly you will be happy and it will reflect on your body language and influence people around you to treat you better.

    So focus your energy on you. Make efforts to improve your mental and physical health. Stop talking negative. Also dont listen to negative people or negativity.

    Forget about your inlaws, do bare minimum and treat them as furniture, not much involvement

    Enjoy with kids, see positives of your husband, atleast he is proving and he is a good son ( even though its too much for you to tolerate, your inlaws are lucky to have you as their DIL, some good karma from their side might have helped), but not able to understand your feelings or support you. Stand up for yourself, but remember your marriage is also important. Learn to thank him if he do anything good, talk less other wise. But talk with dignity and respect. Keep your head high. Focus on actions than words.I know its hard to practice in such a toxic environment, but try to take baby steps.

    Focus on your kids and try to enjoy life with whatever you have. Once you reach a calm state you will be in a much relaxed way. I am sure thess small changes help. Try this for a few months. I am sure you will find some positive change in your life.

    Sometimes, life is about survival. That can be the best option life provides. It doesnt mean we have to be gloomy and depressed. Look every thing with a positive angle, that will help to improve your life.

    Hope you will be able to find a job soon. Be optimistic, good luck
     
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    Thank you..
    I am really trying my best to improve myself and become a more calm and composed person and get rid of the bitterness..actually my anxiety of all that’s happening in the outside world and hormonal issues made me to react in a certain way.
    All ILs here are kind enough to advice me when things are going out of hand and correct me when I m doing wrong...
    In some months from now I will definitely be a new and better person.
     
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    I am ni expert on this vast and least understood subject called karma..
    But I can tell my experience. Most of the times I have seen it working..but Yes its not a linear equation. So Yes sometimes you are not able to get fully satisfied with this karma equation..But most of the times in my life I could seeit working...In my inlaws case i m not satisfied with karma equation..but then I feel God is little biased towards parents..Ghe good deeds done by parents and inlaws when we and our spouses were 100% dependent on them may b dusrupts tge karma equation acting:icon_writing:
     
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