Is Money The Only Validation Of Living Life Usefully?

True...Money is important.I agree.
Many not a lot but surely it is.

No matter what work we do..how hard we work..the amount of money we get determines our internal and external validation in life.

Let us forget about external validation.

How about Internal validation?

Somewhere down the lane,I feel am not getting any return for whatever work am doing.
Husband is a wonderful guy, freedom is there and am also capable enough to make my own money.
However...i chose not to for whatever reasons.


I want some return for whatever work I do.It could be anything.A small amount would make me feel like living life usefully.Again let me make it clear, it is not about others coz society will rip you apart even if you scale mount Everest.

"I just want something in return" for whatever I do.I do not want to feel like I do volunteer work.I want to feel like my work is useful and living purposefully.

A slight confusion arises now and then.

However..tomorrow if money flow stops..again I should not go into a loop.

So the feeling of contentment should arise.How to strive for that?

Need some clarity.

 

Husband actually is very respectful and cares a lot for me..It is just me..

Sometimes feel guilty of this privilege. When I see many around me working and suffering..somewhere I feel what did I do to deserve certain something..and have to admit people around me made me feel that way too..

25 years of mental conditioning

I know the value of money, infact I hardly spend on me except occasional take outs, I am very adjusting and I make sure to put a budget and spend carefuly. Hubby is actually mad I have become a kanjoos..well..I want to spend and enjoy too!but somewhere I do not feel like it..

I am working with a counselor and am much better but on and off doubts surface which she said it will but have to hang on..

I am a good mother(Atleast I feel so),I do chores to the best of my ability but when I feel more hardworking people suffering..I know am conditioned thanks to relatives and so called well wishers as to how I "do not know the value".


Thanks to counselor,my emotions have surfaced and am suffering but it is releasing..which I can feel.It is a very hard process am going through to brutally face the truth to. my face as I was in denial all these days.

If earning my own money and not being dependent is the only way for a person to be validated..I should do it but down in my heart I do not think it is true..


Am just trying to see the brutal truth of what is right and what is wrong and as to why am not feeling good despite what I have in life..why do I feel so guilty?

Somehow feel I have to so so much of hardwork and do so much to feel deserving.Why is hardwork always measured in terms of money?

Also,I know I do not do most of the hardwork.Have to see the men who remove gutter in India..that is one of the hardest work ever! they either do not get money or respect.

how do we measure?

Hope I feel clear soon..

 

hmm...maybe that minimum wage will give me a feeling time is usefully spent?I don't know..

But due to personal situations I cannot go for a high pay job anymore nor do I honestly care..

I know I do not work the hardest every time and there is no comparison of hard work either..as it differs for everyone at different times and different situations..what we can do others cannot and vice versa..

As you said..no reason either..

Then why this feeling money is a validation for hard work? Is it because people who work outside always say they get that feeling of validation?emotional fulfillment?Anything which I do which has no passion..can never give emotional fulfillment.Maybe the paycheck would..give a sense satisfaction for all the pain endured.

I worked for some years and honestly did not get any sort of emotional fulfillment etc...in my case.The paycheck did it make a difference? hmm..not exactly coz at that time I was going out of peer pressure.

I feel like maybe am wasting whatever potential by not "monetizing" it..so everything is money..
for eg:I am good in dance but pursue it as a hobby coz I feel awesome doing it..but am not "monetizing" it! Is that a waste of talent?

So, all those people who are not using their education..are they wasting it coz they are not "monetizing" it?

A person's validation is based on money..hmm..have to admit I still have traces of brainwash by society norms.

Again money surely is important.Different measures for different people.

I am not rich but balanced enough and smart enough to spend and save wisely.live within my means and be debt free.

The guilt that I spend my spouse's money when in all honestly one should not feel if there is understanding between each other.that is all that matters at the end of the day.Just your family and not any other third person.It is not that I cannot work outside.I am fully capable of finding a job.However,For me home is my comfort zone for whatever reason.As simple as that.Shoud I break my comfort zone?However...The feeling of enough is there but not acceptance.

So the question should be "Is money the only real validator for one's success and time usefully spent?"

 

it has subtitles.thank you

 

Maybe I will find a job first and see what happens.atleast I will earn some money if not nothing else.

One thing I won't agree with is people who do not chase money are super lazy.Nope.That was super rude of him and not correct. There are many who are content but hardworking in different ways.

But other than that..all good.