Do You Pay For Your Parents Tickets To Visit You?

In covid travel times seniorcitizens are offered upto 50% discount almost in all modes of travel including by ship provided they carry the certificate in original evidencing person is vaccinated . If Both husband and spouse are earning share the costs of parents travel irrespective of there visit is leisure or on a purpose. When the parents arrive afterall there service to your family that includes kids. Action plan viewed with end output inview.

 

OP,
If your mom is travelling to the US to help you guys you need to take care of all her expenses. If she is travelling to spend time with grandchildren on her own will, then your husband's logic is partially right. Depending on your financial situation you decide. If you are earning and have enough savings, do not bother about what he says. Pay for your mom, like you said child care cost wud compensate the travel cost. Otherwise, it is wise to listen to him.

 

Your husband’s attitude is not correct, IMO. Any idea what is behind his reasoning? Are your in-laws saying something now that they don’t visit and feel your mother is still able to?
In our case both my parents and MIL pay for their own travels. We offer to but they insist on paying their own way. We cover all their expenses while they are with us. My MIL stays only with us while visiting and does not like to go out much while she is here. My parents like to visit their many friends and relatives scattered all over the US and we cover their costs. These days we also set up rideshare accounts so they can travel in their own in our city while we are at work.
Unless you are in difficult financial circumstances or your parents have unreasonable demands I feel it is very cheap to nickel and dime parents like this. It is still easier to pay in dollars especially for working people in US, compared to the rupee equivalent for a retired person in India unless one is from a wealthy background.
Think of how much they spent to raise and educate you. Did they present you with a bill for all this?

 

I think your approach is correct.
Your mom is staying here for two months let’s say..and she takes care of kids and that’s saving a lot of money more than the tickets!

Maybe you can try to book tickets way in advance for cheaper deals?

or if you have your saving..you can spend on your mom..

I think it won’t look good if u ask your mom to pay from now on..you are right here if I think about it.

let’s see what other ILs feel about it.

 

Don't call your mother.Don't let him insult your mom .She deserves better.
Pay for day care and babysitting or let him get his parents for the babysitting.

 

What dies he mean?.you can't illtreat a babysitter here.
Cancel your mother's trip for this year.
Let him pay for babysitters and manage the kids

 

"You wait and see how I treat her"... Wow, your husband really ssid that... I think your mother better stay in her own home than travel. Let the husband pay for the baby sitters!

 

Since you asked for how you want to resolve this is what I would do . Transfer certain amount of money to mom’s account directly for travel shopping . Include the ticket cost in that . Now you know your husband find ways to send money to mom like FD in your name where interest can be transferred to her . You don’t have to justify to husband about spending money for basic needs for your parents . In this Covid if she is willing to travel your husband should take that as a blessing . You shouldn’t have argued about paying her as baby sitter . I think one year you should allow your husband to spend money for summer camp then that will make him understand value of your mom’s visit .