Book That Is Helping My Marriage

i know I know, I'm late for the party. lol. But I just stumbled upon it and was intrigued by the title bc we were considering counseling.

I hear you about it having some cringe parts. Yeah, I think any self-help book has to be taken with a grain of salt and you have to take some and leave some. For me, it just helped me to recognize some of my bad habits and remember that I can control only my actions and "keep my side of the street clean" as the book says. I actually thought it had a good balance though it was getting close to the line in some moments where I cringed a little wondering where she was headed. But then I felt like she would circle back and honor the woman as well as the man. It clearly says we shouldn't ignore our emotions or needs but that we should just take time to consider how we voice them and ensure that we are doing so in a way that is productive. It's geared towards the woman because we can only control our part of it. The hope is that our man will be so happy that we are lovely partners that they will be inspired to work on their part of it as well. Trust me, I have tried putting my foot down and taking a head-on blunt approach and that hasn't been working for me. This new approach has given me hope I am already seeing a change in him. Besides that I feel more positive, energized, and ready to face the issues as they come up with less bitterness. I feel like by understanding how important respect is for a man
I can now be more considerate not to bruise him and hinder our intimacy and growth of our marriage.