Becoming Difficult To Ignore These Days

Hi,
Many of you would be knowing my situation from my previous threads. For those who are not aware, I am not in talking terms with MIL. MIL hates me to the core. She prefers BIL (H younger brother) and his wife over us even though we are taking ILs responsibility. BIL/Cosis never invited ILs to come and stay with them.
Cosis doesnt like MIL as well, but she plays smart. She speaks very sweetly with MIL and inturn tunes BIL to make him not to call them to their place.
BIL is altogether another intolerable person to deal with. Initially he troubled me a lot when he was unmarried by showing extra possessiveness towards his bro and kept on brain washing my husband.
Now my husband has realised few things and fortunately he is better now. Or it may be that he has understood that BIL is not the person who takes his parents responsibility and to take that up he has to be nice with me. Whatever things are just fine with me and husband now.
Coming to the issue, MIL gets restless to talk to BIL and Cosis and gives immense importance and respect to them. I have no issue with that. My issue is that she is very rude to my H also these days and I am not counted at all. She makes sure she has a good conversation with cosis every weekend. Even though Cosis is not willing she makes sure BIL calls her and talks to her.
Then again on v. call she talks about my dd with cosis. Not even a day she spoke anything to me about my dd.
All the time she will be super excited to talk to those two and will be searching for topics to extend the call and to talk to cosis in specific. This time I got super irritated with this and spoke to husband about it.
Initially he denied saying its all my negative thinking. I told him to witness a weekend video call and then it will be clear for him. Usually he goes out to make calls to his friends in the evenings and that is when MIL gets call from them. So H is unaware of it a bit. But I told him to stay back for one day and observe and then judge me and my thinking. He did so and witnessed all the video call drama. He is also not ok with this behavior of his mom but doesnt talk openly about it.
Not sure if he has spoken to her on this, she in increasing the dosage day by day and especially infront of me she deliberately speaks to BIL about cosis, her parents etc etc.
I feel quite uneasy these days as if I am not worth it. It irritates me to the core.
Cosis is another story. She shared many things with me earlier and I also treated her like my younger sister .She openly told me that she hates MIL and the entire lot for that matter. But on the contrary she remains very sweet with MIL. Shares pics, youtube videos, articles to MIL on whatsapp. One fine day she stopped talking to me for no reason for which I am absolutely fine. .I have nothing to do with them too. But it did not end there. Couple of times she had kept provoking quotes on her whatsapp status as if I am egoistic, arrogant, hurt soul and all.
I ignored it many times and on one fine day I gave a fitting reply on my whatsapp status too and it had ended there. The hatred has extended so much that they made sure not to call me on special occasions too (my dd bday especially).
I am extremely irritated with all this and not sure how to deal with these people.
Husbands mantra is "IGNORE". But I feel these are beyond limits to ignore.
I think I have done enough ranting now.

 

@deepthyanoop Thank you for those kind words. I have been doing the same all these. To the extent that I used to be as if ILs arent there around. But recent times I saw how MIL was trying to please them so much especially Cosis.
She literally keeps topics ready to discuss with them. If BIL says she is busy she would request him to call her and then update her. She gives information to her which I am not aware of. If for some reason Cosis doesnt take her call, she would make sure that she would update her somehow or the other.
I know all these can be ignored, but she speaks in a very rude tone at home. Even to DH for that matter. She suspects and questions us in each and everything. If H calls her to check if they want snacks to be packed she would ask if we are buying from a Non-Veg eatery (strict veggies we are) which we never do.
But her tone itself changes to a more soft and respectable manner when she talks to them. This is what is pricking me now.

 

@hrastro,
I agree and trust me I was the same as you advised. Infact I ignored many of such quotes on whatsapp status, considering them as a cheap act. This went even to the extent of blaming my husband too through such quotes.
I left it even then and I was on my own. It went on again and again.
She mentioned as if I am an extremely hurt soul and hence I tend to hurt everyone around . This is where I lost it and I decided that one last time I would post a reply to this and then stop seeing their status. And this is what I did.
I think this has irked them so much.

 

@Metamorphic,
Thank you for the advise.
Yes I have told DH about this many times. He tends to agree with me, but may he is not sure how to go ahead about this.
I slowly trying to come out of this ill feeling. Anyways very soon I will be getting back to my workplace and definitely I helps me to a greater extent

 

@MalStrom,
Most of the day I remain in my room and will be busy with my dd and office work. I come down only at cooking and dinner time and during this time she does this to me.
I told DH the same that since it will be cooking and dinner time for us, there will be no way that I can get away from that place to avoid this drama.