On Being Judgmental

Dear Hari Sir,

There is a subtle difference between Judges making their decisions Vs us making a judgment. The Judges are permitted to gather all the witnesses and if required issue subpoenas to ask anyone to provide witness. We don't have that authority nor the means to force anyone to be a witness to prove the faulty action. But nowadays, we see courts making decisions such as issuing arrest warrants against famous personalities without evaluating a case and judges who are suspected of committing offenses being appointed as judges. That is a mistake in our system and truly judges should be beyond violating any laws of the land and have a moral authority to judge cases.

The vile are ever prone to detect the faults of others, though they be as small as mustard seeds, and persistently shut their eyes against their own, though they be as large as Vilva fruit. - Sanata Dharma - Garuda Purana 112

Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment that you pronounce you will be judged, and the measure you give will be the measure you get. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, "Let me take the speck out of your eye," when there is the log in your own eye? - Christianity - Matthew 7.1.5

Easily seen are others' faults, hard indeed to see are one's own. Like chaff one winnows others' faults, but one's own one hides, as a crafty fowler conceals himself by camouflage. He who sees others' faults is ever irritable--his corruptions grow. He is far from the destruction of the corruptions. - Buddhism - Dhammapada 252-53

Happy is the person who finds fault with himself instead of finding fault with others. - Islam - Hadith

Confucius said, "The gentleman calls attention to the good points in others; he does not call attention to their defects. The small man does just the reverse of this." - Confucianism - Analects 12.16

Almost all religions teach not to judge and find our own faults instead. The journey of life is about our own spiritual progress so that our journey becomes pleasant. From that perspective, mentioning the faults of others is not going to help us. Even if we judge others, we can use it to eliminate if we have a similar quality but there is no need to mention it to others. They are slightly different from expressing a difference of opinion with others. We don't know much about our own thoughts, emotions, feelings, etc. and do not learn lessons from our own experiences and expressing a judgment about others without knowing their circumstances will result in us erring and regretting it later.

Viswa

 

Well said Viswa Sir.Though very often we are advised not to be judgemental, on and often we commit the same mistake, as though it is our authority to pin point errors.
But while bringing up children we have to be judgemental on many
occasions to bring them on the right path. May be sometimes we ourselves are wrong and we are well aware of it.But we don't want our children to commit the same blunder which we have committed.

When You Point A Finger At Someone, There Are Three More Pointing Back At You


“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” — Carl Jung

When you judge someone, it affects you more than the other person. It says more about you than the other person.

Instead of judgment, observe and be curious.

Embrace the differences between you and other people. Maybe they don’t see what you see. Maybe they don’t want the same things as you. Maybe they have a different life philosophy and values in life.

If you want others to stop judging you, stop judging others first.

When you stop judging, you also stop caring about what other people think about you.


Detach yourself from your judgments. You don’t need to have an opinion about everything happening around you.

“Love is the absence of judgment.” — Dalai Lama
Jayasala42

 

Dear JS Madam,
I would have voted thousand likes if that is there as an option.
Excellent analysis.
Syamala

 

Dear JS Madam,
I would have voted thousand likes if that is there as an option.
Excellent analysis.
Syama

So, no need of judgement though it is very difficult. We do judge without our knowledge but do not express it many times. Praise we do as it is easier and other person feels happy. Our judgement may be wrong also....then we have to swallow our words. About children when young we have to guide them. Adults....different approach.
A common expression in Telugu...."Manchi unte Mike li cheppu, chedu chevilo cheppu". Means positive judgement make it loud and negative whisper in ear....without hurting in front of others.
Judges, legalities are a complete different approach.
Syamala