Covid And Travel:mini Freak Out

Your husband is being driven by emotions- but what he is doing is not at all practical and puts everyone's health at risk .You should try to make him see sense in a calm and firm manner.

 

Many Indian states have put restrictions on Sr citizens coming out.Will they even allowed to take tickets or travel ??I am not sure..If you are not able to stop their travel plans ,arrange airbnb stay for them for 2 weeks or in worst case tell your H that you along with kids will move out for 2 weeks.Hope your H comes with some practical solution.

 

Pandemic has made people selfish. What one of the posters hinted that she will move out with kids, is neither easy not feasible. Think about taking that step. It does not work in every home.
In spite of pandemic, people are helping each other, some guard ran to give milk to baby, he could have tripped or caught virus handing out milk in rush w/o gloves. Some one knocked the door to inform there is fire in your backyard, they could have got corona from door knock.

Think wise way to have them not come. Flights have not opened so not anytime soon. Flights will open only when it is safer and it is not that you will book first ticket. Airports are handling situation very diligently. Train them to sanitize.
I am stranded here in India, some members of family asked me not to come,
and i felt bad for a minute even though it was right. They themselves go to places. My brother is asking me to come and he is ready to get me. What if he said no. One 80-yr old woman moved from Mumbai to Telangna and her sons said no. Issue was raised in news.
Do not take harsh decision. Your H is like mine. He does not think much when comes to parents, I guess and probably blanks out everything. If your IL's are in distress, it is your duty to help them. If not, if they can stay back for sometime, it is better. Do not let pandemic break the morality.

 

What one needs to do is what’s right for the entire family. For anyone who is abroad the cost of health care is so huge and unless one takes diligent precautions their future life can be ruined. I know that people who are abroad most likely come to India to take care of them and organise carers for them. For many immigrants they lead mostly a middle class kind of life abroad. Not all are leading the rich life as one thinks. So if anyone is thinking or planning ahead of their life and possible health care issues, they are thinking more for their family welfare. It doesn’t mean they are immoral and don’t have any moral values. It just means their situation is different.

Even in India a lot of middle income families are struggling with the health care costs. Unless one has insurance one cannot get into private health care. I heard that in Mumbai the daily cost of hospital bed for covid is 25000 rupees and for ICU 35000 rupees per day excluding the extra costs in a private hospital. How affordable is it for anyone? If one plans for such eventualities is it wrong? So I don’t think anyone who had replied here in this thread lack any moral values. I find people get guilt tripped especially when involving parents and in laws. In this thread the replies would have been same if the original post had mentioned about her parents rather than in laws. The fact here involves healthcare and costs thereof and so we are morally right to think ahead. Financial disaster prevention is a good thing for the family. Immigration does come with some consequences which is not foreseen by many and only when parents are getting older will be felt.

 

There are certain situations in life where we need to take decisions with brain and not with heart.Unnecessary ,non emergency travel by people is going to put extra stress on family,society and already drained and stressed out medical system.We shouldn't be selfish and should think about not only our family members but other human beings too. Across the world ,doctors and nurses are working in back to back shifts and they are not even able to see their family living in the same city or town. Thousands of people couldn't attend to their dear one's funeral..There are many such situations around us .
Quarentine is for us and for our society .This is the moral obligation we should have towards our family and society.

 

Check Covid And Travel:mini Freak Out
only practical solution is quarantine 7 days atleast (7-10 days or add a few more) in a fully furnished room inside house, occasionally during the day they come out of room ok with mask and social distance. (so it is not 24x7 room-arrest, they can spend a short time outside the furnished room with facemasks and washed hands). This is only practical choice.

If they get sick in india (hope not), You will be blamed, thats the way this game will go.

 

I think your husband doesn’t have any idea about US health insurance. Are they US citizens or permanent resident? In case if they get sick it will be a big financial distress. Few years back I stayed in the hospital for 14 days because of pregnancy complications and I received the bill for $215,000. I had an excellent gold plan, and they tried their maximum to deny my claim. Finally, state health department came and helped me to resolve my case. Most of the visitors insurance won’t even cover emergency room visits.

If they are Citizen or PR holders, then insurance will cover everything but still you guys need to pay the deductible and the out-of-pocket max but if it’s a visitors insurance and if they get sick, you guys are going to pay a lot.

 

Are your in-laws green card holders or US citizens? If not what kind of private insurance are they planning to get that will offer comprehensive medical coverage? The usual travel plans will only cover emergency care and will exclude a lot of preexisting conditions.
You need to make sure that the insurance will cover Covid-related conditions since they are voluntarily traveling during a declared pandemic.