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What Is Aperger's Syndrome

Discussion in 'Schoolgoers & Teens' started by Roar, Dec 13, 2019.

  1. Roar

    Roar Gold IL'ite

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    I could go read about it but thought if any one here would know better...

    I was at a school mums dinner and the normal conversations and all. There is a kid who is extremely able in Maths and logic... I mean he is only 7 and can wear off 10 year olds. We all know it and we adore him, he is chatty little one who can talk about anything!!. The mum is super proud ( why not?).. and lets other mums know about how he can solve rubiki's at 7 etc...or can do complex division problems etc.

    Apart from few complaints from teachers about behaviour ( I know it because I volunteer at school 1/2 day per week) the kid is nice and bright.

    What struck me on that dinner is when mum said 'He has asperges and I would want him to have it rather not'... What is it? and why is it good to have ?
     
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    Asperger syndrome overlaps with highly functioning autism. Affects more males than females. Characterized by nonverbal communication but highly functional. This boy speaks a lot you say, which is rare but not exception as some might speak a lot. Doctors say they usually lack social skills, do not have eye contact when they speak and show no empathy. But this cellphone-on-steroid culture has made this a moot as most young men are busy in their mobiles, so very less social skills from even normal spectrum. Also there might not be too many situations that handcuff them due to their lack of empathy. Might be nonchalant to wife’s or girlfriend’s copious tears or might not even get a girlfriend (this is said to lighten up the grimness of their diagnosis). But some of highly successful men of this era like Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg are said to have this syndrome and seem to lead successful married lives. Good luck to that boy.
     
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    Asperger's, is a developmental disorder characterised by significant difficulties in social interactionand nonverbal interaction, along with restricted and repetitive patterns of behavior and interests.it falls under the ASD umbrella. As a milder autism spectrum disorder (ASD), it differs from other ASDs by relatively normal language and intelligence. some kids have higher intelligence also.
    Albert einstien is supposed to have aspergers
     
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    Aspergers people do have EMPATHY. they just don't know to demonstrate it.
    They don't lie, cheat,.
    cant abuse other people. :hearteyes:
    They will actually make very good husband's :cheer:
     
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    Thanks people.. hm...I can relate now

    Like you said, it could be umbrella ... oh he is verbal alright.. like a parrot:).
    Socially, yeah he kind of getting there ( like sometimes he keeps pushing the kid in the front in the lunch line even thou the kid before him keeps telling him not to)but he chooses whom to love and he absolutely LOVES them ( few in his class)

    He actually likes my daughter hehe.. and he called her in to put his first piece of his birthday cake!.. I thought it was adorable!. But at the same time gets complaints from many boys/ girls... I am sure he will get there.. he is only 7 now.

    I wish him all the best really :)... in everything...all these names with this syndrome are BIG brains ! No wonder!
     
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    Usually the older years (middle school, highschool) are more difficult for these boys.
    Skim this: https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/EJ829415.pdf
     
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    May be because at this age every kid is hunky dory but they pick up social skills thru the years and these ones do it slower than the rest....
     
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    Climate activist Greta Thunberg has said something similar about her Asperger's diagnosis.

    Teen activist Greta Thunberg on how Asperger's helps her fight climate change
    When asked how she found the confidence to speak so clearly, Thunberg said that "I just know what is right and I want to do what is right. I want to make sure I have done anything, everything in my power to stop this crisis from happening, to prevent it."

    "I have Asperger's, I'm on the autism spectrum, so I don't really care about social codes that way," she added.

    In some cases, she said, her neurodiversity gives her an advantage. It "makes you different and makes you think differently," she said. "Especially in a big crisis like this one, we need to think outside the box, we need to think outside our current system, we need people who think outside the box and who aren't like everyone else."

    I have mixed feelings about parents or children calling their developmental disorder a gift or a superpower. Not judging them for only they know the challenge and difficulty of their journey, but there is something that I can't quite put my finger on.
     
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    Interesting.

    The thing is it IS a super power but burden comes with it.. the child has to carry i the glory and the burden.
     
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    All Aspergers kids dont have savant skills or high intelligence.
    Many get bullied in school .
     
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