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Goodbye Amma Dearest

Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by Agatha83, Jul 4, 2019.

  1. Vidya24

    Vidya24 Gold IL'ite

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    Agatha,
    I cannot get my mind off your mother. To live without a husband is not easy in our part of the world and culture. To take up a job just 15 days after your father's death, to diligently sticking to its rigours till retirement, is amazing. It requires grit and determination, it requires lots of love for the family back home.

    Your mother is a soul that had to teach all of us some lessons. I am sorry she suffered in the end. However, she had children who cared for her,and who write touching pieces about her.

    Amazing mom, amazing daughter
     
  2. Agatha83

    Agatha83 IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear Vidya,

    Having not seen my mom or me in person, by just going through my blog, it’s absolutely amazing how could you come out with such heart warming compliments. Whoever you are, one thing for sure I can say- your response was a soothing balm to my bruised feelings. I am immensely proud to be part of this wonderful community, where members respond with deep empathy and compassion. Hats of to you and IL.

    Thank you Vidya,

    Agatha83
     
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    joylokhi Platinum IL'ite

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    Dear agatha,
    I have tears in my eyes as i read through and replying now. Didnt even wait to read the other responses. I lost my mother too recently in 2018, and memories of her keeping popping up especially to think I was not near her in her last moments. We have to console ourselves with the thought that their sufferings have ended , and be at peace. My deep condolences.
     
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  4. Vidya24

    Vidya24 Gold IL'ite

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    Agatha,

    That is the magic of being in an online community, right. We don't have to physically see anyone. The shared synergy propels everything.

    I am still overwhelmed by the life of your mother. I qualified as a certified bonafide healer a few years back. And one lesson I learnt there is that souls make choices on the earth experiences they wish to undergo. Your mother was an evolved soul who chose her experiences to guide her own soul ahead, and to teach younger souls like us ,lessons in life.
     
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  5. Agatha83

    Agatha83 IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear joylokhi,

    My only regret is that when I had been with her, through all the bad circumstances, the most trying times, the one most important moment where I should have been, holding her hands, I was not there.
    Thanks for being here with me in sharing my grief.

    Agatha83
     
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  6. Agatha83

    Agatha83 IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear Vidya,

    I am no healer like you, just an ordinary human being unable to see my loved one suffering in front of me. We are not Doctors or nurses who develop a detached attitude in the course of their work, coming across scores of deaths, during their work routine. One of the most important lesson I have learnt is, not to take health issues lightly..Once againthank you Vidya.

    Agatha83
     
  7. Vidya24

    Vidya24 Gold IL'ite

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    1) I qualified as a healer to heal myself
    2) healers are also very ordinary, normal human beings. Often, they are ones who have more emotional bruises, and trust no one except themselves, to heal themselves
    3) not diminishing the suffering of your mother, nor the care you all lovingly offered her. In the suffering of a loved one, there can be no detachment- be it a healer, healed or human. To begin with and end with, we are all human, and joy and grief affects all easily, and the same.

    It is unfortunate if anyone felt that my earlier posts hinted on a detachment or diminishment of the mother post.

    Cheers, friend. Stay in peace
     
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  8. Agatha83

    Agatha83 IL Hall of Fame

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    Thank you Vidya for the clarification and for your kind words.

    Agatha83
     
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    Agatha sorry about your mother s demise. Even I have been through that pain. In her last days even my mother couldn't recognize her near and dear ones.
     
  10. Agatha83

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    Thank you Balajee. Sad you have also gone through the same trauma.

    Agatha83
     

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