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Discussion in 'Health & Wellness' started by Autumn10, Jul 17, 2019.

  1. Autumn10

    Autumn10 Senior IL'ite

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    Hello friends
    I am mom to 2 years and have started my career back again after a long break of 2.5 years.

    I had some level of postpartum stress and emotional up downs after the pregnancy. I have no emotional support from my parents or from in laws but I am blessed with a very understanding husband and younger sister.

    I do not have any friend circle in neighborhood or any professional circle too. I used to feel really low and lonely at times staying at home all day with kid after long career of 10 years.my neighborhood has lot of groups of ladies but I am not part of any of them.

    I consulted a professional and she told me that I have general anxiety and postpartum stress with hormonal imbalance for which I m taking homeopathy medicines.i also suffer from PCOS.i feel I also have low self esteem and social anxiety at times ,which my doctor is aware of.i also stopped breastfeeding before 2 months.

    Everyday in the evening I,feel really really low and feel lonely as if I am left out of everything. I do not have any relationships to rely on. Or I will end up alone or something bad will happen to me.this persists till night till the time I discuss with someone.

    I lost my mom at a very young age of 10 years and not sure wheher that fear is popping up.

    If I take a outside view of my have life,I have everything i need in life..great hubby,loving sister and adorable kid.i now also have career to look forward to, which is just started.

    Please share some tips to overcome this sort of feelings. When everything is going good ,why am I unhappy for no reason and getting into unnecessary fears.
    I am already consulting homeopath for this and do now want to go for aloepathy due to side effects and all.

    Thank you friends for reading.
     
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  2. SaiKiran1

    SaiKiran1 Junior IL'ite

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    You need to come out of your self created shell/Image, do anything which can divert your mind...find new hobbies/interests.
     
  3. Ashi1515

    Ashi1515 Senior IL'ite

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    Hello dear... The suggestion I am going to give you is one you might not be expecting but one that will definitely elevate the quality of your life. It is to get into a habit of regular exercise, and I dont mean a light exercise like walking etc but something that makes you sweat. You can try a sport like badminton or job aerobic or dancing classes. One very popular type nowadays is bollywod dancing. You can do it home with YouTube videos or even better join some bollywood workout classes.
    You will see that regular exercise does a lot to lift mood, gives you energy and also lots of confidence. It will open you up and make you more confident in approaching and talking to people. But you should stick with it for 2-3 weeks without thinking about immediate results. Do expect to feel better in just 2-3 days but stick to it diligently and you will see results. Hope this helps and motivates you
     
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    PurpleRoses Finest Post Winner

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    Seems like you are suffering from post partum depression.
    Don't feel ashamed to feel low. It happens to everyone at some point of time.

    Don't run away from your thoughts. The more you run, the more it will bother you.

    Few tips to overcome your feelings -

    1. Acknowledge what bothers you. Keep a personal diary and note it down immediately whenever you feel low. Just pour your heart out and write whatever you feel is bothering you at that moment.

    2. Join a gym if you can. The workout is not just for body but for mind activeness too. You will start feeling more confident about yourself.

    3. Gel with your office colleagues and try to build friendships. Not necessarily to make everyone your friend but try to find someone who matches your aura and make that person your friend.

    4. Since you have a great hubby and kid. Use this blessing and plan mini getaways on weekend or even just go out on weekends for a movie or picnic or something. Spend quality time with them. Make memories.

    5. Spark your romantic and intimate life in bedroom with husband. It helps to relieve stress and also makes your relation stronger.

    6. Do shopping for yourself, buy what you like. Or try following your fave hobby that you couldnt do due to other professional and personal commitments.

    7. Try to pamper yourself. Buu clpthes ypu like...dress up, love yourself, go to parlors or else buy facial kits and hair spa kit and five yourself nice head massage or foot massage and facials.

    Try all these and comeback and give me feedback on how it goes...whether it helped you or not.
     
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    Autumn10 Senior IL'ite

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    I did join a gym few days back where there were dance workout 2 days a week.i was feeling better but did not continue that..i wish I should have .after reading your answer, I am thinking to join again and continue it religiously. Thank you for this tip.
     
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    Autumn10 Senior IL'ite

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    Thank you for all the tips .I will certainly try to follow them. I did consult with a doctor and she said it's not depression but anxiety and it's clubbing up with hormonal changes after pregnancy..the main problem I am seeing is I am not able to continue with any of the things for long and give up every easily before seeing any long term impact.
     
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    Can u pls learn and practice yoga and meditation. Try not to depend on synthetic medicines. They are addictive and cause many side effects. One of my friend was taking anti depressants and now talk like someone is giving her pain, someone mixing something in her food etc. It's better u come out of it naturally. I had same symptoms like u after my delivery and joining back work. It's all harmones imbalance u can cure with good diet, exercise, good sleep, yoga, meditation.
    If u r sleeping with Your toddler u may not be getting good sleep. First focus on getting good sleep.
     
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    others have given excellent tips. I reinforce exercise, yoga and meditation. Add the concept of ACCEPTANCE to the list.

    Life is not a bed of roses. Everyone has their own share of sorrows. And NO ONE in this world has a life that lacks joy. It is perspective and your attitude towards these ups and downs that matters.

    Like someone said, jot down notes whenever you get these depressing thoughts. I say go a step further - divide the page into half and write down a positive thought/action that happened against the negative thoughts you just wrote. At first, it may seem difficult to find positive material and feel artificial, but more you write, easier it gets.

    Exercise, Do yoga and Meditate. These are not alternatives, especially meditation. Yoga and exercise may be - just may be - substituted for each other. But not meditation. Believe me, I have benefited immensely.

    Do NOT do anything for results. Remember

    "Karmanye Vadhikaraste, Maphaleshu Kadachana
    Ma karmaphalaheturbhu Ma Te sangostavakarmani"

    You have right to action, not to it's fruits
    let results not be the motivation for your action, do not be attached to inaction
     
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    Hi Autumn,
    Looking at the positive side, you have a nice husband, content family and started a new job which is great as it ensures financial independence.

    Now, seems like you are bothering about too many things - health, adjusting with new job, lack of home support back home, lack of friends/social circle etc.

    I can think of some ideas to tackle these, health - this is primary. As many others said, exercise will make you feel better physically and mentally. Make a daily routine to get some form of exercise - can be anything you enjoy- gym, yoga, Zumba, dance , anything. You can even go with your hubby to group classes or gym and it will be lot of fun. This can be a fun activity to combat the loneliness during evening time. Make couple time like this every day and special nights at least few times a week which will for sure make a difference.

    Adjusting to the new job- this will happen gradually. Try to put some extra time to get back in form as you are starting career after a break.

    Lack of family support- this is not in your control. Talk to your sister openly about your feelings and sharing will reduce lot of anxiety. Your husband is your go to person here and please be aware you are the most important person for him too and your kid.

    Lack of social circle- Seems like you were busy with the kid and feel missed out in social circle. That's very common and it's ok. Now that you have started working, try to make friends in office, in park when you take your kid, in gym etc don't force yourself, but try to initiate if necessary.

    I wish you recover from the issues and have a happy healthy life. Good luck
     
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    Autumn10 Senior IL'ite

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    Thanks for reply.i am taking homeopathy medicines right now for PCOS, anxiety and hormonal imbalance .do you think it will have side effects too.yes sleep is a major factor ,I cannot sleep easily at night ,due to no time thoughts and no time to sleep in the morning.
     

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