What is the real meaning of marriage?

SGBV · Nov 8, 2018

The real meaning of marriage according to me is, the companionship.
Having a companion for life, in a committed relationship is divine.
Having companion to share, care and bear all the responsibilities that life throws on you is the most secure feeling in life.
Marriage is growing old together with your companion. Learning to life, fighting together, and presenting as a team.

It is a sense of security that you have someone, no matter what, the person who is committed to be with you will be there forever.

This is the only relationship where you can be open, and be yourself, and feel comfortable.

nandita24 · Nov 11, 2018

Another meaning in practice: What is something that needs to be said?

Amulet · Nov 11, 2018

Forced marriage, and forced-labour are counted separately when it comes to the statistics on modern slavery. No counts on forced-to-stay-in marriage, like how it happens in western society, and in places like Saudi Arabia:

Highlights | Global Slavery Index

joylokhi · Apr 13, 2019

I have not read all the posts in this thread, but having read shri Viswas take on marriage and what it involves, i feel it really requires to be read and practiced. Congrats Viwsa as usual for such clear insights. Your family is lucky to have you.

HHj · May 4, 2019

Viswamitra said: ↑

Dear KCB,

Thanks to Satchi bringing this thread to FB Forum, I came to know about this thread. Institution of marriage has a very special connotation in the society especially it is not based on relationship established through birth in the same family. This relationship is to be respected as such and acted accordingly by the participants irrespective of the gender. Purposefully, I am keeping the religions away here even though most religions clearly define the duties of the householder clearly and unambiguously for the benefit of those who marry.

Keeping aside the religions, here are my direct perception of the association of two through marital relationship:

1) Fundamentally the couple who venture into marital relationship should have a commitment for a long-term i.e. for life and to share and care for each other for life unconditionally not subject to exploration of their behavior and attitude that stems out of their Samskara.

2) Both of them should commit to recognize each others strengths and weaknesses and learn from each other to establish a smooth and trouble free married life.

3) There has to be a clear understanding that this relationship creates a clear commitment to stay together despite the huddles faced from outside of the marital relationship.

4) At the same time, there has to be recognition that there are relationship outside of this marriage that are relevant and important to each one of them and marital relationship can never succeed to the exclusion of mutual respect for such relationships that existed prior to their getting together.

5) The primary purpose of the marriage is to establish dharma through association of people from different walks of life and help each other in their spiritual progress. One of those duties include procreation and when not blessed with a child, adopt, bring a child into their fold and establish righteousness and human values in that child. It is not a right but duty to create a generation that would succeed the couple with Truth, Righteousness, Love, Peace and Non-violence.

6) In order to perform the duties, the couple needs to make a living which should be earned through righteous ways. Austerity should be practiced as one of the values and savings out of such austerity should be spent in charities. Duties should be performed in consultation with each other and there has to be a clear understanding that both partners in the marriage are equal in determining the values and principles of this family

7) The roles in the marriage should be distributed based on the understanding of the skills of each other. Earning, financial management, character development, performing rites for the ancestors, building the family values, knowledge and education for the children, strengthening the relationship with extended families, finding friends of similar values, company of good people, choice of worship, etc. should be determined by mutual consultation and one should give the lead to the other based on heartfelt consent.

8) Unity of the family should stand priority over everything else. There should never be adultery, conceit, indiscipline, erosion of values, etc. by either one of the partners and the primary purpose of establishing highest standards is to inculcate the greatest value to the next generation by living an exemplary life.

9) There has to be a constant learning by the couple from each other and in case of sudden loss of life of anyone, the other should be able to run the family unaffected by the loss of life.

Viswa
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So true Vishwaji. ..
But everyone should understand this...
Lot of people r suffering in their marriage.. But still continuing due to the one or other reason... If they cant commit to eachother they hv no right to spoil kids life

HHj · May 4, 2019

SGBV said: ↑

I think we all are complicating the simple meaning of marriage with the so called social rules and regulations.

What is marriage?
It is a commitment between a man and woman (or it may differ as per LGBTI relationships) to live together for the rest of their lives. A successful marriage requires respect, love, intimacy, care, share and a bit of friendship to go with the same partner in the long run.
When you travel this long journey called marriage, you are loaded with so much responsibilities to drive this journey.
As spouses, each one should be ready to pick up their role at their best, and eventually know what and how their roles can be reversed when the other person can't sail with the same speed.

Marriage makes two different people into one family. This family grows as these two partners of marriage produces more children. Now, the term marriage slowly change to family. The responsibilities, care, share love etc..etc... except intimacy is shared among all the members.
Marriage grows beautifully as their family grows.

When the old and golden times, as children flee the nest, family changes back to marriage, and this is when the couple live together for each other once again. This time the bonding becomes so strong, because they have a special quality called "understanding" is added to the list.

Marriage becomes easy with time regardless of whatever the social factors, but with one condition. There should be love and affection between the partners.
Care, share, respect, responsibility etc..etc... will eventually fall in the right place if there is love.
Even the wrong partner will change for love.
Love should be mutual, and I am not talking about one sided love.

If there is no love from at least one partner, there is no point of doing any kind of adjustment in a marriage. It is a complete waste of time.
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But what if the one partner keeps on cheating

yellowmango · May 6, 2019

HHj said: ↑

But what if the one partner keeps on cheating
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Then it is no longer marriage.
It violates the very basic principles of marriage.

Sunshine04 · May 22, 2019

Dhamini · Jun 26, 2019

Love, companionship, trust and commitment towards each other.

Thyagarajan · Jun 27, 2019

@kcb
Thanks.
Your quest to understand the meaning of marriage began 7th Feb 2016. After three anniversaries and last FB #180 today, I am sure all followers of this thread understood the meaning in a way they wanted to.
2. Those who are married envy those who remain unmarried even after attaining the age forty. Some married because they believed that “ whether one marry or not; at the age forty they repent”.
Regards.
3. Marriage is just a bit team work to explore future with issues.

God intent is to have earth filled with angels .