In Extreme Mental Agony..

Really sorry to hear of your situation. In such times, ones immediate family is the one u can turn to , but since u say thats not possible, please do look up online for helpline services in and around your place of stay. There are many such places in major cities in India. Since u have not mentioned your location, and provided further details, its difficult to give u customised suggestion. It is a known fact that being dependent financially makes one the most vulnerable to any abuse and not being able tocome out of it. So, your first step should be to somehow try to get a job or a means for being able to manage some finances independently. It may seem overwhelming, but u have to seriously make astart instead of just bemoaning the fact that uhave landed up with a worthless person for a husband. My prayers and best wishes. U may get further good advice in these columns.

 

You don’t have to kill your self. Instead become successful and make your husband feel the same!
If you are not in India and if you are unable to get work visa then get back to India immediately and start working. Tell your husband only if you are treated with respect you will return.
No you don’t have to feel guilty for anything. Let society tell whatever it is, they won’t help you when you are in need. Think what is good for you and your baby alone don’t bother anyone else.

 

Dear,

I have requested our Super Moderator to create a separate thread for you. Please include your place if possible so that anyone with some knowledge would be able to guide you better.

Our prayers and good wishes are with you. Good luck.

 

@Itshardship,
Please Google and search for a centre near you that can guide or help you, as in the links here.

What you can do to find a home for the homeless |

Sakhi Centres provide hope to women in distress

women in distress, mumbai - Google Search

May God bless and protect you, dear.

 

Chennai has many probono lawyers and women's shelter.
Try to get alimony and child support and then find a job.
The lawyers will run your case for free and get you divorce.
You dont have to live with an inhuman person, the illusion that you are weak, not capable, dependent etc is only in your mind. Not in real.

goodluck

 

I am happy that you responded. Please check the following links and stay connected with IL; some good suggestions and help may come your way.

Prajnya Call for Help Chennai Helplines Listing Distress


This Chennai NGO Helps Women Who Have Been Victims of Violence With Counselling, Protection & More


Special Cell Set Up In Chennai For Women Victims Of Violence

 

When you say you do not have anyone from your side to support you...what do you mean?

You do not have a family?...or
You have a family but they don't support you.

Are you educated?
Have you ever worked outside before?
Do your in laws support you?
Do you have any brother or sister...any good friends?

If you have no support and if he is not physically abusing you.....then make a long term plan to exit.

Brush up on your qualifications.
As your child grows older..start looking for part time jobs. When she goes to playschool ,you can go for part time jobs.

Later on look for full time job.
Think of your husband as a bad landlord that you need to suffer till you can find another place.
Dissociate from him emotionally .It will hurt less.

Give yourself a time frame .
Take small steps towards independence.

Do not have another child in this marriage.
Not fair to you or to the child ..besides it will trap you more into this abusive relationship.