Should My Mother Contact Boys Mother?

short answer and long answer , NO. trying to break it to you gently , but both boy and his mom aren't interested. dont find fault with what you said or did, if he couldn't handle that there was no point. he is not the last man in this world and god knows what flaws he has , so move on dear , .. you are worth it, so dont bend over backwards trying to please anyone. and stop being anxious of any kind of a. invisible ticking clock. take ur time to find the right person.

 

It clearly looks that they are not interested. If at all they were interested they would have contacted atleast in a day

 

See when a man is very interested and want to pursue, nothing will stop him. He is probably thinking this is too much drama and want to move on. Pls save your dignity and move on. this is not meant to be.

 

Let it go.

It is painful but do not degrade yourself.

Don’t beat yourself that you did this and that.You spoke your mind and he spoke his and he did not respond.It just happened naturally.


If he is as interested as you,he will approach.Men usually (their genes are like that) make the move first.Let him go.

Even if he comes back,most probably to check if you are still all Gaga about him.

Nothing is
More important that your self respect.


Please do not make your mother to go behind them.They are not worth it.

It will ache for sometime but you will be fine.God bless

 

This part shows that they may not be interested, because if they were they would have called back n not avoid the calls.

A man / woman can give second or even more chances but in this case, I am not sure if hes still interested or are they just enjoying the attention.

Your mom has definitely tried, it would save your family’s respect to not call them again. It looks bad to make your mom go behind them like this. Because they can turn around n say ‘you people were coming behind us’. N most importantly, Interest should be mutual.

 

Why marry someone that did not think you were good enough the first time? You will forever be a compromise in his life. You deserve better , don’t you think ?

 

I have experienced this @nolife when my parents were looking for alliance for me. From my experience no don't contact them again . A couple of times where I was genuinely interested and waiting for them to get back they never got back. When my dad tried contacting them they ignored in a similar way u have mentioned. After 2 incidents I stopped thinking much or feeling bad. It's sensible to move on.

 

So true. This arrange marriage setup sometimes it is too annoying

 

yes totally agree. It's like job interview . When we don't get through we should move on to try elsewhere rather than thinking what the hell went wrong. Off course little introspection is required but one advice @nolife is don't take things personally to your heart. Unless it is all fixed and you have decided to proceed there is no need to think much about the few whom we just meet once. This is how it is in arranged marriages.