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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by vidgopal, Sep 13, 2011.

  1. Vedhavalli

    Vedhavalli Platinum IL'ite

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    You can wear them both.
    Thali is a promise for a marriage. A symbol, if you like both you can wear. There is nothing wrong in it.
     
  2. superkum

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    Hi friends,

    Accidentally happens is completely fine. You ware it again. No problem at all.

    These days, many women think ware mangalsutra is old fashion etc etc. In my view, Thaali / Mangalsutra should not be removed. Basically, Indian women is the symbol of Indian Culture and Indian women's most important ornament is Mangalsutra. Do not follow western culture.

    Thank you.
     
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    UmmWhatNow New IL'ite

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    Yeah Indian women are a symbol of culture of misogyny and oppression. Because only an woman needs all this special symbols to show her marital status. That was/is meant to clearly symbolize the fact that she belongs (like property) to someone else. Yet her husband need not do anything like that because he does not completely belong to her like she does to him.

    Even if thali/mangalsutra is removed deliberately and not accidentally, nothing will happen. There is no connection between anyones life with a necklace.

    It can be of sentimental value to anyone but making it a superstitious thing is ignorant.
     
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    Moreover she has to become a part of the husbands family.. crazy culture
     
  5. sbonigala

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    I am born, raised and married in India to an Indian. I am a Catholic. Thaali is not in my culture.

    While I fully respect the sentiment around thaali, I want to voice my opinions.
    I apologise if my words hurt anyone, thats not my intention.

    A country where 4 month old baby is raped, a country that still works on caste system , a country that oppresses women and cannot take action against rapists and criminals, a country which cannot see a movie as a movie but create communal riots - where will the respect come from towards its culture? Which culture are we talking about?
    As much as we proudly sing Jana Gana Mana, with much more shame we must also talk about these issues.

    Please read our forums and you will know how many lives have burnt out trying to respect the culture and trying to uphold the values.

    Man who has no respect for the woman who wears necklace around her neck for his safety - does not deserve the safety the necklace provides. For such a man no goddess will provide safety.
    Man who know how to treat his woman does not need any security accessories. For such a man, gods and goddesses personally take care and bless.

    Lets make Indian woman a symbol of independence ,strength and success. A culture that treats woman as human, allows woman to succeed, empowers and respects a woman - automatically commands respect- without the need of necklaces.
     
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    actually western culture. women wear wedding rings. and take it very seriously if they remove it. i work with lot of white women, it is not as fully shown in movies.
     
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    You are over thinking stuff like they show diya bhuj gaya, now something will happen to someone in the household. Don't over think such things. Its totally fine. It was a mistake.
     
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    Wearing a thali or not is purely a personal choice but in one or two posts i read that malayalees don't have thali tying ceremony/ needn't wear it etc..sorry to defer with this..( being a malayalee myself) there might be communities in Kerala which don't have this but most of them do have this ceremony..and I should say majority of the people sport big thali chains on their neck ..i personally don't believe in the connection between the longevity of husband's life and thali..
     
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    first of all , let me begin by saying that i TOTALLY AGREE WITH U on the point of wearing mangalsutra/thali..and i dont wear it at all ...but ur next para wher uve talked abt babies being raped and criminals not getting caught ..its not a part of INDIAN CULTURE..its more of a political/social issue and many factors such as povery , illiteracy , dirty politics play very complex role in it...we shdnt forget that for rape victim nirbhaya whole city came on roads and finally she got justice. and btw even in catholic majority states of usa 1 woman is raped every 7 minutes (according to usa state govt's data) and almost half of them never get justice inspite of being the citizens of a far far developed country than india...so instead of attacking the culture of any country we shd come together and attack the corrupt system...having said that i must say that caste system is indeed a social evil /menace which we must curb .(again, its similar to the agrican american /black hispanic color discrimination of west)
     
  10. sbonigala

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    Thank you.
    I appreciate your time to reply to my opinion. However I did not talk about religion. I just mentioned my religion in reference to thali.
    I DON'T live in the USA , neither do I fancy that. Am not sure why you quoted USA in your reply. I do however worryabout my nieces and nephews living in the US because of easy gun attacks on school children.
    Because of the same worry, I don't think I am ready to raise my kids in the US (24 attacks already in this year in unless than 7 months time -across the US) easy openfires and gun access and job insecurity scare me.
    Also because you quoted some stats, I would like to share some news too.https://www.smh.com.au/tooworld/asia/the-world-s-10-most-dangerous-countries-for-women-20180626-p4znrs.html.

    Rape has nothing to do with religion and caste.
    Culture is what we are, what we do, how we treat each other above and beyond religion.

    Irrespective of the country, Rape is a hideous form of disrespect towards a female which comes from how a male is raised and how a female is raised while the male is watching.
    If a girl is constantly taught to obey the boys in the house, to bow down her head when boys are around, we are not just making the girl less confident but also teaching the boy, unconsciously, that he is a level higher than girls and that he doesn't need to respect a girl.
    Similarly when we teach a girl how to act in public, we should teach boys how to treat women.
    I don't think religion has anything to do with this. It's the value system and basic human rights that are essential for any human.
     

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