Sharing Experiences

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  1. Iravati

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    Third sutra: Don’t be readily apologetic in life. If you eagerly conciliate for no fault of yours, you would be manipulated into subjugation thereafter every time. Be assertive. If dignity is in polite co-existence, there’s integrity in spirited retaliation. Manage the interplay of these traits.

    You haven’t said anything even remotely disturbing to prick my nerves. In fact, I demurred to elaborate further on that “fear” inquiry because I inferred that you are sweetly delicate and my wayward means may corrupt you. I come from a wily background. Bwah-hah-hah!
     
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    Health is the most important thing of life that we do not take much seriously as we should. A healthy person can be happy and make others happy more than a rich one.

    There are many small things that we forget to thank about as we get them easily. Everything that we use in our daily life has been delivered to us by many efforts of many people. Like the one who produced other who compiled then who packed and then who sold. Everyone do a lot to make that thing easily available.

    Reading habit if developed in a child from the time he recognised alphabet is the best way to keep the learnings high.
     
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    I would like to expound on this pointer. Hope you don’t mind. It is vital to indulge in books and magazines with a steady passion. However, popular and superficial reads do not engender worthwhile learning and commensurate awakening. One could read a thousand pages tome and walk away unaffected and unamused.

    For a long time, while growing up, I was reading all trashy and insubstantial books. Or, toeing the mark, I would read away what everyone was reading away like Coelho and Rand and Sheldons and Cooks of the day. I realised much later what and how to read.

    Your personality evolves with the well-reasoned thoughts you are exposed to. Someone might tell you that there is no such thing as a ‘bad’ book. There isn’t, but there are dull and irresponsible books that manipulate you by either trivialising or sensationalising an influential thought. Beware, what you are reading, for it stimulates your personality and outlook. If your body is controlled by the insidious microbiome, your mind is sinisterly folded by your reading temperament and tastes.

    I have come across people who claim to be “voracious” readers but neither their writing nor mannerism reflects that voracity and sophistication. I would rather dissect one book a month: research, theme, quotes, citations and enrich my grasp of the topic and its attendant aesthetic value (diction and style) instead of devouring with a constipated hunger that is ineffectual in elevating your senses, as you never metabolise the writing in all its glory.

    ‘Reading habit’ is only a springboard to leap into a fulfilling exposure that consists of discriminating reading indulgence. Be mindful, and careful, of what you are reading for it shapes and defines you.
     
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    Thanks for sharing your experience. I actually was looking at this from many days. I started the thread "curious about kids" but was not able to ask this particular thing. Actually I am not so fond of reading and I can see myself far from the others in this matter and my personality is also like know only little about everything or do not know at all. But I want my kids to have this habit. I am also trying to involve in this and reading the book suggested by you and liking it too. Please guide me further how can I proceed with my kids for this purpose. They are at present too small. 4 year and 2 and half year. But I am worried about if this is the right age to start or what is that and how to start with them and how to proceed. I bought them some books and they like to read and see the pictures like to colour what else do I need to do and what are the right kind of books that one can select to read as per your experience.
     
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    OP- wonderful thread! I read the whole thread today and loved reading all the experiences.
    For me personally, there have been enough life lessons along the way. The most important lessons for me are:
    1. You are responsible for your happiness, don’t expect this from others.
    2. Best friends are the ones who have known you from the time when you were nobody, never leave them.
    3. Believe in yourself. Listen to the advice but do what makes the most sense to you.
    4. Don’t live in past even if it was painful. Forgive who hurt you and move on. Life is too short to microanalyze the situations and wonder what you should have done differently.
    5. Do what makes you happy...enjoy every day and the little pleasures it brings.
    6. Don’t compare your life with others. There will always be someone more beautiful, richer, younger, popular than you are. Either work hard to achieve what you want, if you can’t, be happy with what you have. Never spend what you don’t have to impress others.
    7. Give hugs and kisses to your family everyday.
    8. Smile and give compliments to strangers. You never know, you might make some one‘s day.
    9. Call your friends whenever you have time without keeping tabs.
    10. Tell your family and friends often that you love them.
    11. Follow your dreams!
    12. Hug and kiss your spouse, your children, parents, nephews, nieces, siblings, friends....Pyaar
    Ki jhappi (I repeated this because it never enough to express your love).
     
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    Thanks for sharing... You seem to be a very cool and loving person. Liked everything that you said. :)
     
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    Mind you, I am not a parent so my experiences stem from having been on the ‘other’ side of the fence as the kid you have written about who is anxious and confounded to compete and survive in a world which is so full of challenges, and disturbing and impressive voices alike, and contentions nurtured in an environment by clueless though loving parents in rapidly transforming times. I can only write from that kid’s point of view to get herself inducted into a fraternity/community/workplace of wit and reason and stimulation and learning. I know what it is to be that aggressive kid but I don’t know what it is be that overseeing parent. For whatsoever worth, I will write up my thoughts later. I get you!
     
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    Thanks. Looking forward to this.
     
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    When mil is around feel irritated by her but when she is not around get more irritated plus tired due to kids. She helps me a lot. Still not able to control my anger and ego.
     
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    Monika, I didn't abandon this request but deferred as right off the bat I am not poised to advise anyone on cultivating an enriching childhood that proceeds into a fulfilling adulthood without angst and doubt and other emotional turmoil which is prevalent or rather examined in this generation.

    Nevertheless, here's my vague sliver of wisdom. Listen carefully. There's a world out there which is formidable and impressive, not necessarily intellectual but sound in mind. We might never collide with that world whilst we are happy with our self-enclosed and sustainable tastes. When you do collide, you will be thrown into a disarray of self-doubt ....how could I be so ignorant of so many things. I don't know what those people read or what kind of upbringing they had. I don't even know if such sensibility and reasoning was innate or acquired. All I know is that when your kids cross with such inspiration in academia or workplace, that itself will lead them somewhere. What is that somewhere? That also I don't know. But do what you can and let your kids explore on their own and catch up with their preferential crowd. As I said, not everyone strikes their path with this provocative crowd as we all settle in our favourable spots. But if they do, they would know what to make of the chance encounter. Till then, happy childhood.
     
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