It happens only at In-laws's house

Thanks @Dishaa.. I will remain silent only there at my MIL's house. Once I'm back to my city, I will not be doing all these things.. I'm working IT pro Yet, I will be doing all these only to maintain a good relationship with my DH, sometimes he kid me like am acting like a "good child" over there.

Also My MIL is really aged and I don't like to hurt her as well. I just think her as my Grandma and will obey her orders just for few days

 

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My heart bleeds for my sisters who had described the harrowing time they endure after marriage with disagreeables. This has been going on despite increase in literacy. My eyes welled up as I recalled happenings to my only sister some decades ago. In a separate thread, I shall be narrating her sufferings and the way I dealt it later, as a result first marriage annulled and I re married her to a young man outside our community much against wishes of my own relatives and parents. She is now a proud grand mother and while her son is nephrologist and chief in a hospital in down south India and her engineer daughter lives comfortably with her hubby Cupertino. The moment one sense that in laws more greedy & demanding & more selfish, it is time for her to get separated (if possible with her spouse). By enduring constant embarrassment, you are bound to be stressed facing health issues such as ulcer, dementia, derangement etc. I strongly empathise with all who suffer at the hands of in-laws(SIL& Bil included).
God bless all laws in this regard both in India and other Nations.

 

Arrange for an extravagant marriage, force my parents to pay for more than half of it and then boast that they don't spend money unnecessarily.

 

Very bad

 

My MIL visits the temples in the evenings and listens to the pravachanas....
Every one in the house will bewaiting for this time, it's like the class teacher has gone out of the class for an hour so everyone can do what ever he/she wants
When she returns.....,I am the scapegoat it's nothing to do with the cooking or other chores for I would have attended it.It is the repeatation of the entire pravachana to me
My BIL, DH and even my MIL will be moving around with a suppressed smile.Once my DH gave a subtle hint that I may not be interested but what was her reply
" Only rakshasas will not be interested in hearing about the puranas"

 

Dear anupama1,

Please install a spycam in ur house & show ur MIL about her rakshaas children behavior once she leaves.

 

My in-laws were just fine. AFTER the marriage, anyway - before was a totally different story, but once it was a fact, they were in no way any sort of problem at all.

It was MY mother that was the problem, and my siblings (my dad was great, don't know where the rest of them came from).

Fortunately I had no problem ignoring them as I had already become accustomed to it after years and years of dealing with them, LOL!

 

@Archanaanchan thanks for liking and I take it as reminder to post about my handling of issue quoted in text above.
Regards and God Bless Us all.

 

Few of the very many !!!!


We live abroad and my ILs live in India. Everytime they call us they enquire about food. If we ate or not, what time we ate and what we ate. And every single time will come a comment that we should have eaten an hour earlier of when we ate. Say if we ate at 8PM, answer will be 'you should eat at 7PM.. health will not be good if you eat late'. Now when ILs stay with us, Coffee is served at 7PM, Dinner is served at 10PM. And we go to bed by 11-11:30.
I dont know how healthy that is.

No matter in India or abroad, demand for sambhar, rasam at restaurants. Apparently, when it is an 'Asian' restaurant, they SHOULD have sambhar, rasam etc!

When we visit them or they visit us, it is always me who has to chop all veggies and MIL is the master chef. Only thing missing is a video camera to record her cooking. She narrates each and every step.

Breakfast made 3 days back is good cos it is leftover and she doesnt want to throw it out though we can end up in hosp for food poisoning

Expects DIL to make variety of food for her beloved son, but when she visits us, for the whole 6 months, it is dosa/idly for breakfast and Idly for dinner

Why bother cleaning utensils properly the first time, when anyways before use, we rinse it once?

FIL and MIL when they get angry, MIL can shout at FIL. But DIL should never shout at DH, because, Sanskaar.

FIL can help MIL in kitchen but DH entering the kitchen???? it is as if the sky is going to fall down.

 

as long as you remain DIL you would have to endure this. when you are promoted to MIL then you can also act like that. it is vicious circle. It has been going on since primordial days irrespective of the geography and culture you are in. So the remedy is .....!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you and regards. God Bless Us all.