Abusive Husband!

i logged in after a long time..was busy with life !!

I don't want to burst ur bubble but LOTS of men n women in their 20s r also getting treated for infertility...2 of my own family members are gynaecologists !!

most educated women won't buy this poor indian village mentality that infertility strikes most in 35 to 45 age group..LOL....this BS ain't raining on our head in western countries or metros in India !!

I think U need to be in touch with reality ..TIMES r changing.....its 2017 and not 1960....if women in 30s including late 30s and early 40s were not able to have children, most of the RICH high income families in western countries including US would be childless n half of the women -who married and decided to have first baby in late 30s in my family would be childless...BUT IT AIN'T SO..they had perfectly healthy pregnancies and perfectly healthy babies........LOL....

my own sister who is a doctor had first baby /conceived naturally in late 30s n other friend in early 40s...try to interact with moms of children in PRIVATE school in US--these r much more expensive than private schools in India--in most of these schools, mostly people with income higher than atleast 200k $ will send to such schools, n both parents have to clear interviews as well--most of the children here come from rich high income families , where majority of first time mothers are in their late 30s n early 40s...these people have all the money but choose to marry late and have babies late unlike villages n small towns in India where the man n lot of women try to put a stamp on women's fertility....even my cousins in metros in India married in mid 30s and had babies naturally after 35

And every woman's body is different...a woman can have infertility issues in early 20s n same is with men who can have low quality sperms even in 20s.....so a 20 year old woman might have issues in conceiving while someone in early 40s will conceive just accidentally after just 1 random night of act without protection.........most of these women who conceive naturally in late 30s and early 40s are slim and fit n same r their hubby's whose sperms are equally healthy ..these ladies choose to be late mom's even with all the money because mostly they r too busy pursuing their dreams !!...so stop generalising n putting a stamp on woman's fertility or pressuring women to marry because they r so n so age otherwise u won't be having kids.....rather ask them to be fit ....

I don't wanna burst ur bubble BUT times have changed.....lot of high income families in western world r living examples that any man and woman who is fit and healthy can have healthy baby naturally even in early 40s !!...

 

YES- here is my basis-----------the way he said has been used by some indian men to gain sympathy to send private message to strike a relationship to get into pants !!.i have been told this by many indian women so its better to forewarn !!.

i will be very wary of any man who says to a lady on a forum -do u have someone to talk to--this line is such a pathetic commonly used line by desi men to start an emotional affair n then get into pants !..THIS guy was using this exact line ..

.just like married men on matrimony sites n on Facebook with indian wives r sending interests to single indian women..after all i deal with all sorts of cases where indian women told me that their desi hubbies were using exact such lines to get into other woman's pants ....so i can smell smoke from a distance !!

 

who told u---that--if your infertile if you are below 35 you have more probability to conceive than if you are above 35?....LOL..
NOPES, it doesn't work that way.....what u say sounds like a gibberish of an illiterate indian villager man who goes to a indian villager quack to get a treatment !

INFERTILITY cause is treated the same way whether a woman is 21 or 31 or 45 !!..go talk to GOOD infertility specialists n not a quack or a poor doctor -who will say anything just to make u happy or to make money...

its like if a 25 year old man's sperm quality is poor and a 38 year old man's sperm quality is poor, their treatment would be similar..their is not much difference !!

 

Very judgemental eh ? You assume villagers are illiterate , Indian men want to get into women's pants and only the RICH private school educated women can have kids when they choose to . . .
Glad you are busy!

 

its not being judgemnetal...don't cry grapes r sour when u can't get them....LOL...well, those grapes aren't in ur destiny so stop being so JEALOUS n FRUSTATED at other people's happiness n privileges..that ain't gonna help u a bit..

....it's calling spade a spade...i m of indian origin too but always call spade a sapde...n several cases i deal r of indian women treated like crap by their indian husbands who ask their lawyer how can they avoid giving any money to their helpless small child --imagine !! or their abused spouse or when they try to talk crap about the uterus n character of their wife when that poor lady is innocent n helpless, after years of abuse...

stop closing ur eyes n shouting irrelevantly that desi men r the best....i don't need some loser like u trying to hide problems of desi society under the carpet....that ain't gonna change...try to see teh problems for it is n voice the right opinions !!

STOP BEING JEALOUS & FRUSTATED n acting like a LOSER ....u stay in ur own pathetic corner of the world n try not to get jealous of others !!

rather, look all around u n get some GUTS to speak the truth., which u can't apparently on even an online forum ..LOL....u aren't helping the cause of indian women who get treated like crap by their pati parmeshwar, whose 1st question to an attorney is-- i don't want to give any child support to my child ..how can i avoid that.....IMAGINE, these kinda indian men don't even feel pity for their own small child..what evil souls r they !!

 

Aww ! You need to get some sleep , nighty-night

 

well, i already slept a lot ..last night, my fiance didn't let me sleep..wink.. so slept a lot during daytime...had more than 10 hrs of sleep today.....my fiance is travelling out of state tonight....just enjoying my time now on thsi forum n other books....life is total fun !

 

Two things :

First, Please get a job first. I suggest reach out to women in this community who lives near by on figuring out a job for you

Second, there is something boiling behind with your spouse!! if the behaviour is genuine , it could be because of work stress, poor anger management etc . But if its not genuine, there is a clear message, he is trying to convey in his actions !! But , lets not go there first. Get a job, be independent. try a brisk walking, yoga/meditation, Spending time with your kid, Positive thinking !!

 

I go through a lot of verbal and physical abuse almost everyday. My husband went around with another lady and cursed me for not being beautiful. I have been married for about 13 years and he has had serious anger management issues. Once he looses it then God save us. I have a 9 year old daughter and she has seen a lot of violence. I have thought many times to approach the police but I am scared he may just bribe the police and come home burning with revenge. I was working as a freelancer but he threatened to set the house on fire if O do so.
I stopped working only for some peace at he coz I can never see my little one insecure. She stops eating when she sees him angry and extremely violent.
While people say go for a job, I have sent my resume to many people but all in vain.
Life is so difficult that I just don't have the courage to live. Nowadays I try harming myself coz I cannot take all this anymore.
The house is in my name but he throws me out and says that It belongs to him because he pays the EMI.
Somebody please help me. I feel helpless.

 

Huh. What rambling is this? Who told you I did not go to a good infertility doctor? I have been to infertility specialists in both USA and India. And my doctors in USA are on top of their game. Instead of quoting anecdotal evidences quote some statistics. Risk of miscarriage gestational diabetes and chromosomal abnormalities and reduced egg quality increases as your age increases. True that a 20s woman can have infertility too. A 20s woman can have osteoporosis. That does not mean all 20s women will have osteoporosis. The probability of a woman in her 70s having osteoporosis or osteopenia is higher than a woman in her 20s. Same is the case with reproduction. It does not matter if the woman is earning in 200s or if she is poor. Probably a woman earning more can have more money to spend for infertility.