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Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by monita, Jul 23, 2016.

  1. JGVR

    JGVR Gold IL'ite

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    Either your H thinks that you can manage or in a economy class or thinks that BC is too much for you and he being superior to you should have the previlege of travelling in BC.

    Whatever may be the reason,your stand is correct.If you have the means to book your own ticket,book it on your own.Let your H save all the company money by not even spending on economy class.
     
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  2. monita

    monita Platinum IL'ite

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    Honestly, he wouldn't mind me travelling with them. It's my own choice to not go with them. it gives a few hours of escape from mil.
    P.S.- We were not on the same flight. I took a separate flight. However I was still entitled to the spouse benefits.
     
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    monita Platinum IL'ite

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    I too can not understand that. That's why I posted here. DH is a smooth talker. Anyone who meets him becomes his fan. He treats my family well. He asks my sisters if he can get anything for them.
     
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    blindpup10 Platinum IL'ite

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    :flushed::flushed: He asks your sisters they want anything and they are ready to appreciate your H?
    Not cool!
    I would be super pissed if I were in your position!
    Try to get your H to do something nice.. even if its not first class air ticket. Next time book your own. But right now.. get him to send you for a spa day/ massage/ extra pocket money. He owes you that much!
    He can't keep saving every penny and spend it on his mother and family.
     
  5. monita

    monita Platinum IL'ite

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    My mil called her jeweler and ordered jewellery worth lakhs for herself and her dds and asked him to send the bill to her son. sometimes I wonder if I should also do the same but I can't . it's not my character. may be I need to change.
     
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    blindpup10 Platinum IL'ite

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    Jeez !! Pathetic MIL. If your H is used to such a demanding femal figure in life . I think you should become one too. Right now.. Just get yourself a day in spa or shopping or anything that you like to pleasure it out. Don't ever deny yourself.. Your H will spend.. If you deny yourself he will just spend it on MIL.
     
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    Thats not a good stuff done by your hubby..next time make sure either you all travel by BC or all in economy...and if in case you take a diff flight, make sure you take all the spouse priviledges.. No harm in using the benefits you are entirled for. And if company wants to do the cost cutting, they will remove the provision in first place.
     
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    Ragini25 Platinum IL'ite

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    monita,
    There are many battles in life. If this is important battle for you - pick it, else skip this battle. You can make a decision to choose , otherwise life will be wasted on every single battle and by the time you realize you are 50 yrs old with more battles in memory than anything. So use your judgement and go with that.
     
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    kcb IL Hall of Fame

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    I can understand it's really upsetting and not fair at all.

    Does 3 of you traveled on same day same flight?

    If so, then it's absolutely not acceptable, atleast your DH should have downgraded his tkt and traveled with you in EC letting his mother to travel in BC.

    If not, then may be his company rules may not allow splitting the tkts on two different dates. (May be both the tkts should be booked on same day same flight according to his company rules, generally there are some different rules & criteria when company sponsors the travel).

    But don't spoil your peace of mind on this issue. If it's done intentionally by your DH then ignore & forgive him for this time, but tell him clearly that you will not entertain this kind of behavior from now. Either sacrifice his BC comfort given by his employer and travel in EC with you or let you also travel in BC by paying the extra fare.
     
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    yellowmango IL Hall of Fame

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    Why not?
    If finances permit,visit the jeweler and buy a whole lot of jewelry even if you don't wear much.Send the bill to him. If he objects...tell him you are collecting jewelery for your dil so that you can have a loving relationship like mother daughter with her .Atleast this will help soothe the burn pain he gave you.I don't know if this would make you feel better....but it would have worked for me.

    How are things with Mr now?:p
     
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