Does Brushing Teeth Takes An Hour?

It takes my sister an hour and a half to get her two kids ready for bed. It's not just about brushing teeth, she also needs to supervise tongue cleaning, change their clothes, and bathe them.

 

Dear OP,

As other members suggested do the following -

1. Get a job ASAP
2. Ignore your MIL & Co sis taunts or they making faces. Let them do whatever they want, you do whatever you feel correct with out hurting others
3. Speak to your co sis and split the responsibilities between you both

You need to open up and speak out, otherwise it will be too late and you will never get a chance to change the situations at home. First of all come out of that pleasing everyone syndrome and stop trying to please everyone, because it's always not possible to please every one and more over in the process of pleasing everyone you will end up losing yourself.

So instead of trying to please everyone it's always better to do whatever is good for the family & justified without hurting others.

 

Good, getting a job will be the best solution. The main reason behind in laws behavior is their insecurity. Since birth their son was following their foot steps and listening to them. After marriage their insecurity starts, they think their son is no more going to listen to them, and going to become a Joru ka ghulam. I feel all parents has to grow up, they should understand onething that their son has to move on with the life and should maintain a good relation with wife and has to make his marriage a success. If they want their son to be a momma's boy then better don't get their son into marriage, better keep their son with them without marriage instead of spoiling other's daughter's life. Most of the marriages are damaged because of parents insecurity.

OP, if you are not well, then just go to your room and take rest, let MIL talk whatever she want. Your health is important for you, you don't have to stretch yourself when you are suffering with 101 fever. If people forget about humanity, then you should not bother about them, just think about your health.

Good luck for your job search.

 

Ignore your MIL & Co sis taunts or they making faces. Let them do whatever they want, you do whatever you feel correct with out hurting others
Isn't that the hardest part? Please advice me on how to do it? Specially if husband also thinks I am wrong and she is right?

 

how did she manage things before you came into the family? in joint families it is usual (not healthy) for women to try to ease their household duties. it is best for you to look for a job (will ur inlaws allow that???) and put a schedule to what you would can do and do no more. plan your day (which is more than just cooking cleaning) and see that you follow it.

In my house, I pack breakfast and lunch for my kid (like many other mothers) 1 hr. I wake my kid just 30 min and get her ready before her bus arrives. So , I think your co-sis can manage her time better but the question is will she want to make breakfast and lunch for the entire family ..I dont think so. You see the difference there? Many mothers are making for their kids (lovingly) which they would happily do whereas here she has to make food for the in-laws. Looks like she has managed to show that she is very busy with kids. Your MIL will also not interfere in this tussle between 2 bahus as long as she is not asked to cook !!!!