Strange problem

Hello friends,

Lately I have been running into this issue a lot! Both with random casual acquaintances and also some friends. In the past few months it has happened enough that it is beginning to bother me. So I thought maybe I will post it here and you can give me some of your great inputs which will enable some perspective for me.

The issue is that I keep catching people in silly random lies, lies told by them for no apparent reason that I can see at least. For eg., I had to meet an acquaintance and give him some papers as requested by my friend. I know this person very casually, not well at all. So I contacted him with a suggested day and place. He replied that he cannot meet me on that day as it is his daughters birthday so a different day same place for the exchange. I agreed, we met, he again repeated so sorry my dd's bday blah blah, I was like ok, whatever, I handed over papers, then some other casual conversation happened during which I asked him how many kids do you have and he replied I have 2 boys. Then he suddenly stopped speaking and looked away with an extremely odd expression ( he was embarrassed) and I couldnt understand why for a minute and then it clicked in my head. :idontgetit:

Another incident was with my distant relative. She visited me recently and we were alone at home and she was telling me in great detail about all her problems and how tough her life is blah blah. Then her h comes in and tells me stuff which directly contradicts whatever she was telling me earlier. I was puzzled and objected but but... She looks abashed for a sec and has the cheek to tell me 'oh I was testing to see if you were really paying attention!?' Her h tells me bluntly 'dont believe everything she tells you.' :idontgetit:

There are similar incidents with other people. These are all adults ok. Grown ups, holding down jobs, with families etc, so presumably able to handle responsibility and accountability one would think. So why do this? People making up stories simply, not just exaggerating or embroidering incidents, I mean, outright fiction, or telling silly random lies for no reason that I can understand. Why lie about such silly harmless things for no reason at all? Have you run into such people too? Any ideas? Oh and btw these people are all Indian.

 

OMG! Vanitha you are so right!

And the funniest part, as you said, is not keeping track of their own lies! Why lie then? Why not say 'I'm busy' and leave it at that? That is what I dont understand. We are all adults here isnt it?

I have a couple friends like your friend too! They also appear to be existing in their own version of alternate reality. I just ignore them entirely. You know the funny thing is whenever one of them comes over with her h, that man will continually ask my h for confirmation about everything I stated. shakehead I would say something, immediately he turn to my h and ask 'is this true?' not so bluntly but indirectly seeking confirmation! So sad no? I got so pissed once I wanted to tell him, 'not all women are liars like your wife,' but I bit my tongue and kept quiet.