" Poor we Ladies" Just wanted to share

So true, especially while staying with in laws .

 

So true....when i was studying hard and not able to go to relatives house ...evertbody used to criticize me tht she doesnt want to go anywhere....
aftet marriage when i was busy in my job commitments everybody criticize me tht she is focusing only on career....when i quit my job for my small daughter everybody said tht wht u r loosing ur salary...money is imp.....
my mil had problem tht i dont get up early n cook lunch when i was working....after quitting job i started cooking early and started guving tiffin to my hubby...she n fil had problem tht i cook the lunch in the mrng itself to finish my work ....
If my mil cooks breakfast...mil n fil has the problem tht i am taking benefit of her....if i say u plz take rest n i will cook evertthing ....she n fil has the problem tht i n not letting her do the work as i think she doesnt know anything....
if i give my baby to mil then i am taking her benefit if i dont give her then i dont want to give baby to her...
if mil is sick and i give the same food which others r eating then dr. Told me to eat light food...
okay i prepared light food for her the mil n fil: why she is not givong u the food which others r eating....
oh god gimme a break....
if i suggest something i am trying to dominate if i keep quiet she doesnt take interest....
even my hubby....dd is getting spoiled as u pamper her a lot....now dd is behaving rude as u dont pamper her and every kid expect some pampering....
dd is not taking interest in eating as u r after her eat eat n eat....now....every mother worries extra abt their kids food....u r the one who doesnt....

List is endless.....i can write a book on it...was trying to please others and i was on verge of getting mad....now i dont give a DAMN to anybody and do wht i thinks right.....

Wow felt so gud after venting....haah....

 

Almost every woman can relate to these quotes. But i am glad that things are slowly changing for good. hugsmiley

 

The society will be telling something or the other. It is obvious we women pay lot of attention to what society thinks about us. Better we pay more attention to our self disciplining rather than what the society thinks about disciplining.

Men too face sarcastic comments as such. But not many of them feel offended.

If a man comes late to office - there will be at least some comments as to why he can't afford a car or bike. Why he has to depend on public transport. What he does with the money he earns.

If a man goes to home early to be with his sick kid - some one or the other will speak like why he has to rush? Why on earth he comes to work if he has so much to do at home? Why can't he order his wife to baby sit? Can't he keep his wife under control?

If a man loves his wife, so helps her at the kitchen- Again the commentators will go on and on... He is henpecked. He is controlled by his wife. He has no spine.

If a man choose to cry to let his emotions go - People would say, he is crying like a girl.

If a man choose to stay at home - Again, they will not respect him

If a man choose to always support woman and be nice all the time - They will name him with a number. i.e no 09.

So, society will be always telling this or that... Why bother so much and go to self pity mode?

 

very true... can relate to all of u because i stay in a damn joint family.. which i thought will be good ended up taking my peace of mind and happiness away from me...
want to scold very hard n harsh on MIL,FIL,H faces.. slap them across their faces straight.. kick them out of my life.. send MIL n FIL to their native place away so that they wont enjoy with us in a city and to top it play around with my life... bloody f****** idiots b******* and all the bad words are meant for them ...

 

Divya, cool down. I understand your pain and problems. But listen, don't let them spoil your time atleast when you are away from them. There is a saying, Out of sight, Out of Mind.

 

@BDivya....write it all on a piece of paper. Then tear the paper into the tiniest bits and throw in the dustbin.
Don't go home with so much anger. It will only hurt you in the end.

 

Can understand your bitterness and the mental agony that you had to face to use such words to describe your in laws. Don't let them steal your mood or happiness. They don't even worth to be part of your life, leave alone spoiling it.

Just ignore their existence, and try to live for yourself.

 

thank u all am trying that but not able to remove their thoughts away from my mind..