What kind of person she is?

Hi Ladies,

After spending a lot of time to understand the simple relationship, which is very complicated in our case, I thought of taking opinions. Its about my brother and mostly about my bhabhi.

Theirs is love marriage, bhabhi is not of our cast. But still both side of the parents agreed and arranged the marriage. My brother is elder to me and has been always protective. In childhood we had very good bonding, though we were not that close like other siblings that you share all your secrets with each other.

After their marriage they moved to another city as both of them were working. So my bhabhi never got a chance to spend much time with my parents and us. But we use to talk over phone and she seemed to be nice.

Later on we got to know with few incidents that she's very straightforward and would say anything to people if she's not in a good mood. We ignored all those things. But my brother told that she's kind of person who would not forget anything until she resolves earlier issues. So I tried to speak to her many times.

The problem is , I am also married now, and my brother doesn't speak to my husband at all (with me also rarely). Not even on phone. He says you first resolve your issues with her, then only our relations can become better.

I have tried my level best and still trying to make the relationship better but I don't understand her. Once we spoke for a very long time and she said everything is fine, then suddenly she changed her mood. And this has happened many times. I always, always try to talk to her, she always tries to ignore. I understood that she doesn't want to have anything with me. But when I think of my brother I feel so bad. Why can't we have a normal relationship like other siblings.

 

Thanks @yellowmango and @sindmani.
@sindmani...yes I spoke to my brother about this, his answer is always same. Get close to her, things will become better.
@yellowmango..issues I did not mention here. Ours was arranged marriage. Before meeting to my husband, we had almost decided to go ahead. My first meeting with my husband was at my bhabhi's place. That time my brother was abroad. So only my bhabhi was there. When my husband came to meet me, she was not in a good mood. Don't know if she had some office pressure something. She did not talk to my husband at all and ignored him badly. This was the first impression she gave to an outsider that time. Our marriage could have broken, if my husband would have told these things at his home. After he left she became very normal. I told these things to my parents and that was my fault.
Now after 10 years of their marriage things are still same. She says because of me, her impression is bad on my parents. And when I asked him the reason for her behaviour..she said I was testing your husband's negative side.
I've been trying to resolve this but no use. My brother has kids also 5 years and 3 years, and we have not met them yet.
Only thing I feel bad when I see other married siblings. But I guess I need to move on as you suggested.