Help me to get my real husband out of him

my dear friend.....how will i know how he was before marriage as he hardly cared to speak to me or my parents even after our engagement ceremony . He used to ignore whenever we tried to get in touch with him before.

 

Dear Rihana....please judge all the aspects from a positive angle before commenting. Your comments might hurt someone. Here we all are friends and sharing our problem , trying to find solutions through discussion and advice. It does not seem good be find our friend to act as CRITICS for the person who starts the thread. Becasue the person who is going through the situation can best understand what he/she is going through.

To your question-
Yes he and his family expected my father to spend on all expenses. They used to take account everyday who gave the money on whatever was bought. but never taught him that his so called naiveness is puncturing his prestige.

 

thanks for posting......but when i asked him if he had any gfs,....he said he had attraction towards 2 or 3 gals at different times long before in student life. Then he didnot hav any.

 

Thank you dear....fr understanding my problem to a greater extent. Thanks for thinking out of the box. The posts from Rihana is really disturbing.
You seem to speak like a matured person. I dont know why some people get engaged over analysing the author of the thread itself other than trying to console or giving advice.
Anyways...
Yes , you mentioned it right, hs acts before marriage were really disturbing and my parents had to go through hyper tension . His family took it very lightly when my father tried to talk to them about his behaviour at that time before marriage.

Now after marriage, my inlaws are always concerned about finding faults in my work and tries to brainwash him against me. I have never come across such complex and mean mindset people. Everytime they try to prove their son/brother is good/innocent, their family's value system is higher. And i/my family's culture/atmosphere is not worthy at all..
They donot want him to get attached to me . They feel insecure and his mother tries to blackmail him emotionally that he has changed after marriage or so.