feeling very lonely in U.S

gankita · Apr 26, 2015

I am new to U.S and i stay in houston.
I feel very lonely here, no one i can see around while i am home. My husband has long hours at work and can't even come home for lunch. siting at home and taking at home feels very lonely, even he too feels lonely.

I don't know much driving yet, also we have only one car, that my dh takes to work.
doesnt feel like doing anything, feels very quiet.
how did you guys adjust?
no family or friends around

mansithakkar · May 5, 2015

Hi Gankita,

I am Mansi Thakkar, here in Houston. Its sad to hear that you feel alone. but lets be friends. Tell me where do you stay ?? I mean your area??

Will wait for your reply, If you are interested in being friends that you can even send me private message.

Dipik · Jun 18, 2015

Hi Gankita\mansi,

I just moved to houston a month back and I am looking for good friends around who can join sometime over a cup of coffee, accompany in shopping.

If you guys find some free time, just send a private message.

By the way am living near galleria.

anika987 · Jun 19, 2015

I understand..it is tough.

try to learn driving though..do you have any train station or bus facility nearby?
any places you can walk around?

Meantime,go for a walk every evening.
practice yoga or meditation
do some online courses
watch nice movies
learn online music if interested
try cooking different dishes

You have more options if you can drive though..

regarding friends..it takes a while. Do not have much expectations though.relax and keep doing what u can.things will get better.

NehaYS · Jun 24, 2015

Hey mansi,gantika, dipik, and anika987

i think everyone goes through this phase after moving to US, don't worry this will pass. If any of you guys inserted for getting together for a cup of coffee or lil chat message me.

mansithakkar · Jun 25, 2015

Hi Neha,

good to see your message, and will let you know if gather somewhere!!!

Thanks

tashidelek2002 · Jun 25, 2015

.If you have kids, get involved in the PTA (Parent Teachers Asso.) at their school....you will get all sorts of connections that way

sriintouch2003 · Aug 12, 2015

Hi Gantika & Others

This is Sridevi..
Please private message if you are planning to meet.
I will try to join.

Thanks

anika987 · Aug 12, 2015

Can I tell u something! I am not going to lie.it will be tough for sometime but life is USA is an eye opener.i will tell u in a moment.

before that..
grass is greener on the other side.i got the good luck to stay in India last year for more than four months and life is very different from the life u lived before marriage and after marriage.let me assure u that.ur friends move to different places,things change,thoughts change.it does.

now about USA as a eye opener..

when I first came here,I was devastated.i thought one thing but life is a whole different thing.for few years,I literally went into depression and life got better after kids.never made good friends and the ones I did moved back.

first somehow get a second hand car and know ur bus routes..

so finally it dawned to me that life is what we make of it.if u r here,might as well make the best use of things USA has to offer which we won't get to do in INdia.then no regrets!

1) learn driving.it is a pleasure driving here.

2) study/get a job- definitely more confident.even if u just study,u won't be judged that u r studying at a particular age and job u will get here at any age unlike our country.

3) take care of ur health and go to gym.use those facilities.even if we have it in india,day today it is very tiring to go to gym after handling kids and work back in INdia.get a great body and flaunt it!

4) avoiding Inlaws drama on a day to day basis.

5) more privacy and less interference.

8)read good books and watch good movies.

9) save money and go to vacations here which we cannot even dream of if we are in our country.

10) u live in a more cosmopolitan atmosphere which unknowingly increases your social skills without ur knowledge.

11) life is not just about sitting and gossiping,talking about our old days and drinking coffee.yes,it is good but it is ONLY good with like minded friends.be it INdia or USA,friendship is never going to be same like the past coz we have an history with our old friends.so even if u r in INdia,it is not going to be the same.

12)do u know how many threads are here from people in India looking for friends and saying they r lonely?what does that say?if u do not believe search for the threads

13) learn cooking and do awesome dishes for hubby.customize home beautifully.u also have ample time to beautify ur self here.

14) life is more relaxing here.period.

15) going to a vacation in INdia will be lot more fun than staying there coz u will see only the good side of our country and it will rejuvenate you.

16) more private time with hubby.u can attract him physically and emotionally and increase the bond between u.

I can keep giving more points but will stop now

lofe a a life with no regrets,be positive and life a love which others will envy and be inspired.spread ur energy around.

good luck.