To Make A Living

Dear AC,

Nice thread. I have seen many people being forced to play a role to lead their life.For instance i would like to tell what happened to one of my relative.He was a normal student passing out with 65's - 70's.He had a desire to do some degree like BSc in Comp along with some comp related certification and get a job thro this.But his parents wanted him to do an Engg course, he tried a lot to explain his incapability to complete it, but they were strong in it since they had an opinion that a guy with such degrees cant survive, but forgot to think a poor engg student cannot also survive.Net result: He studied Engg, just studied, but still not able to find a job out of it due to his poor performance.

Like him there are 1000's and 1000's.A colleague of mine always used to complaint about her job.She was attracted by the pay and accepted the offer but still looking out for a big leap.

If a situation forces us to be someone or something, then atleast we can tolerate, but when we are forced by someone else it is really pathetic inspite of them being our well wishers.

If a person questions me "Who r u?" i would like to reply "Whom i want to be".

 

dear chitra,
against all odds in my life though i knew official works my sudden disability brought about a drastic change in my lifestyle, i had to work against all odds to take care of my children.
today when i think of it, it has been something after my heart and the most highly competitive profession of singing with groups in public with an hearing impairment gave me a high no doubt every night after the show when i return home i realised how much i loved this profession, money wise also it was not adequate and people did not respect this profession and thought it is one of the most easiest even my children but then once you get into this, and one has to face a 50,000 minimum people from all walks of life. so you are not sure about their reaction and how they would appreciate a tomato can land up on you, this fear has always plagued me. by god's grace this never took place..

every month a set of 12 songs has to be ready from 4 to 5 different languages, telugu, tamil, hindi, kannada, and sometime malayalam,gujrathi and bengali, according to the season. so you can imagine how tough it is to get the words right, here i must mention my daughter priya played a very important role in writing down the words so it was easy to grasp only the tune and tone of the words. but once the programme is over and people come over to say are u gujrathi? i applaud the inner self vow, thanks to this knowledge to have earned this appreciation from them and when i say in the negative they do not believe...

each day a new crowd, a new atmosphere, a new marriage pandal, and to hit it off sometime ladies came near the stage to check my jewellary and saree whether it is silk now this is done mostly by the telugu crowd, my boss always used to tell me, hey sundari anda cream and maroon pattu podavaey please, so i used to tell him yen neengala vangitharel and he used to go on begging pl pl innaikki periya party and so on, so all my collection of saree business profits used to go for this get up for the stage.

i lived the life i enjoyed most and singing has been my madness from young and i got it and proved that i could excel against all odds, only sadness is my father and others never had a great opinion not that they made me an IAS officer only too ready to get me married without checking...anyway that is another story.

thank you for bringing out those memories, the high living expectations in this profession is something one has to go through to understand its reactions and when they do applaud and go mad and start dancing you feel the power of your voice, could shake not one or two but some 50,000 vow thought how usha uthup must be feeling and asha bhonsle must be feeling when they compare you to them mostly ahsa bhonsle, they used to say if we close our eyes we feel this is a record being played,
now that is a very high honour to me.

like in mahabharatha they say kunti was given the mantra to save the clan and they knew in advance that her life is going to be so, like wise maybe god knew my life and gave me the voice and other talents to tide through and its my athmasamarpanam to him daily for that....sunkan

 

Dear AC,

Luckily i wasnt forced either by destiny or someone.I completed my studies as i wished and selected my career accordingly.So i dont have much to xplain about my case regarding this thread.Lets c what others come up with.

 

Hi AC,

I was never pressurized to take up a subject. It was my choice. Parents just backed me.
Then I got into a job which again was what I liked....though the pay packet was a little less initially.
Then after marriage, when I moved to Gulf, to Kuwait..the job in a school was not much of my choice, but it just happened...nevertheless enjoyed doing it....My dh too never forced me regarding this.
Now after some relocations, I have decided to take a break...a big one...with other priorities in mind. So, I am relaxed and enjoying it.
I just hope and pray that it continues to be always by choice and not out of some pressure....becos out of pressure, maybe we bring out the best...but it could be to stressful.

bye

 

Hi mrs Sunkan,

I just can applaud you for tiding over all the rough times with a nerve of steel:bowdown:bowdown:bowdown...Tough days can bring out the best in us.

I pray that you have peaceful, enjoyable days ahead.
And when can I hear your sweet voice.......?

bye

 

thank saras,
when the tool is given and then the situation i think we must use our common sense to jump the trail and sail away...thanku dear for understanding and appriceating me...sunkan