Are women partially responsible for maintaining male dominance in our society ?

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  1. Nov 19, 2014 #31
    Romantic2014

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    Thoroughly enjoyed your sincere effort of satirizing a serious issue of tradition and value. Needless to say, though it gave lot of amusement , but we should not neglect the vital issues only for the sake of fun.

    Women in professional area, ( a simple low grade worker is also referred to as a professional here) are not always great assets for the employer, office, company or customers . It is not because they are less talented or incompetent, it is because their minds are always split between household, children etc and the work. They cannot not always give one hundred percent . In most of public and private sectors , this is the picture. Where, the work is one hundred percent for the women like "nurses", "primary teachers" , "front office girl", etc, the matter is somewhat different . But in higher level , where more talent, time, devotion are required , the population of women are much less. A happy but truly successful lady professional is rare , and the the successful lady professionals rarely have a happy or pleasant family lives.

    Keeping in mind that factor, I said women should not be forced to step out of home to sgare the financial burden. But , women like you are always thinking "shining India" and not "traditional bharat" .

    One highly qualified lady friend of mine, who herself is head-mistress of a renowned school and wife of a big scientist, whose daughter is doctor and whose niceces , sisters are working in different parts of the world ( not going abroad with wife's visa, or any second generation NRI) confided .........working women ENVY the comfort and happiness of the non - working women or housewives, because the latter because they can take care of the children and household to their hearts contents without worrying for the responsibilities and burden at the work place. This way, they are successful at least in one area, i.e. in home life, in stead of being a bits and pieces person.

    I also feel, a true man, should not want or expect his wife to step out of home for earning. He should mind the "mantras" rituals and the meanings of those.

    There are lot more things to say. But I doubt, whether that will serve any purpose here . Some women may earn some dollars and may feel they are at the top of the world. Let them be happy with their own ludicrous idea.

    Never mind my rebut. Take it in the spirit in which you gave your post.

    Have a good day.
     
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  2. Nov 19, 2014 #32
    Ragini25

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    Currently some % of men want the traditional way, and some % of women still want the traditional way. The remaining % want the "modern way" or some mix.

    Dont break your heads arguing. When you marry - try to find your compatible one, and then it works for you. If the traditional-wanting one marries a 'modern' one, then dishoom-dishoom. And heart break for both, or emotional coldness blah blah blah blah. Identify compatibility BEFORE marriage decision is made. Find your kind and marry your kind. Or stay single and happy to mingle.
     
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  3. Nov 19, 2014 #33
    Arunarc

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    Hello Ladies

    Enjoyed reading everyone's opinion on what you think about this topic.

    But somewhere I felt that some of you are taking this discussion personally. Have healthy discussions ladies, all of us have the right to speak our thoughts. Don't take the discussion to such a point that it will start heating up.

    We are all in virtual world, we all don't know each other well. All of us feel what we say is always right. But it might not be so, someone else might not agree to our points this doesn't mean that we lead our healthy conversation to a heating point.

    I hope all of you got the message. Please have healthy conversation.
     
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    Slightly. But if they stand up for what is rightfully theirs then maybe one day this dominance can end.
     
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    One interesting aspect is that how do we raise our children. Do we teach our sons how to cook, doing laundry, cleaning the house? Do we teach our daughters to change light bulbs, using a screw driver? Do we raise our children to become independent adults capable of taking care of their future families and do not get stuck with us?
     
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    Hi Arunarc,

    Thank you for your feedback. I am sorry for lashing out on this thread. I understand what you have said.

    I was not responding personally. Only felt there is no place for such regressive attitudes as the poster has mentioned. As this is primarily a ladies' forum, where ladies come to discuss their issues, so, felt it a little weird that the poster has mentioned such things here. Sarcasm was the only way I could think of responding, as it seemed so out of touch with reality. I now realize I overstepped my boundaries in the process. I am sorry for the same.

    I agree with you that a healthy discussion should not turn heated. I will take care of it in the future, and will not post further in this thread.

    Regards,
    nb25
     
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    Aleprabhu

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    Hi dear,

    Of course is our fault that men feel over women. See, women are respected by the kids, since every kid loves his momma very much. We have lot of power in power in our hands, teaching our sons to respect women, give them equity in home (both should help in home, clean, etc..)
    Sad to say, but is our fault that our society is dominated by male.
    I.E, most of the women want to have baby boys, because of family prestige, dowry, etc... you may not thinking this, but most of them prefer boys.
     
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    Agree...many times women are responsible for the existence of male dominance in India
    even in these modern times.
    and agree HE does not do anything with out a reason.Once there were chimpanzees then homosapiens and there was an evolution and they became human beings .This is all according to HIS supreme will.But it would become a problem if some people are still stuck in homo sapien era and not agreeing the evolution.Same with the gender roles.It is evolution.
     
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    Romantic2014

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    So you have decided to give marital advices in stead of answering the issue?
     
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    Romantic2014

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    Nice, reading your post. Many people ascribe newer kinds of social phenomena to evolution, as you have done. People used to marry, now they prefer to have live in relationships due to great social evolution from homo sapien era. A man fails to maintain his family on hisown income but has not forgot to marry due to evolution from homo sapien era. A wife not minding to make a heavy weather on domestic chore-sharing due to evoluttion from homo sapien era. People are knocking at the door of law for divorce without caring for children due to evol;ution from homo sapien era. spouses never mind to have evening out with suitable mates from the opposit gender due to evolution from homo sapien era

    Nice to know the greatness of evolution from     homo sapien era
    Stand indebted for the campiagn in favor of evolution from     homo sapien era

    Have a great day.
     
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