Old MIL and a young DIL relation... Are we somewhere forgetting humanity

That's a great question to ask, especially in this sub-forum.

P.S. Time is a great leveller, it sure is.

 

DIL should be aware that in some future she will also become a MIL.
as saying goes "Do unto others as you would have them do"
giving this a little twist i say
treat others as you wish your parents to be treated"
i rest my case.

 

Mil is responsibility of both people but primarily that of son.If dil has gone to her mother's place son should have cook or arrange food.
I don't want to say DIL has not done any wrong.I just want to point out sons are equally or more than that responsible for mother.

 

It all comes round in a circle. The DIL will realize one day unfortunately she won't while poor MIL is alive I think.
I agree withu that in laws are also like our own parents ... We must take care of them in their old age and not abandon them, even if they become lonely or depressed or crazy.
Sad thing is that these days I don't see ppl taking care of their own parents leave alone in-laws!!!
Teenagers these days try so hard to run away from the family values and system of our living. Over time like how history repeats itself... Baggy pants, puff sleeves and leggings and bootcuts are back in vogue and price of antiques skyrockets.... So I say... They ll all come around!

 

I haven't seen karma catch up, for most of such cases i have witnessed in my life. And by that argument what did the MIL do to deserve such treatment ? Again what is son's role in all this. oh he is henpecked it should all be his wife's fault/or MIL's fault for nurturing a spineless son ?

 

I have seen & heard Karma catching up with interest, for a lot of such cases.
And on the other hand, I have seen many sons & DILs flourish & prosper in life with the blessings (Aashirwad) of elderly in-laws who were looked after & taken care of so well in ripe old age by their DILs just like a daughter would.

P.S. Allowing himself to be henpecked is the husband's fault, I agree. But it doesn't talk highly of the 'henpecking' DIL either.

 

Certainly very sad. I am not justifying anything. It just crossed my mind that the dil might not be a very enlightened person and despite the doctor's assurances may have had some irrational fears. Even so, it is no reason for not letting her watch TV or use the fan.

She could have nicely offered to do all the work and asked the mil to take rest so that the mil did not feel hurt.

Whatever it be, the son and dil could have discussed the issue and found a solution to the problem like getting some help.

No one should be in a state where they are so emotionally hurt that they feel it is better they starve.

 

Why is it all DIL's fault? Obviously the son could do more to be with his old aged mom. He shoves the responsibility to his wife because he himself doesn't want to lift his finger for his own mom.

I am not saying DIL is not at fault here. But son is the primary responsible person.

 

The situation was sad...apart from MIL she was an old woman. Anyways, I just hope we learn to be there for weaker counter parts.

As some one said, what was her own son doing?....and the ratio of sons mom suffering is anyways far less than that of parents of of girls, but its labelled as 'fate'....simply fate.