Where we love is home-home that our feet may leave, but not our hearts

iyerviji · May 3, 2014

"When two people are meant for each other, no time is too long, no distance is too far, and no one can ever tear them apart"

"There is no long distance about love, it always finds a way to bring hearts together no matter how many miles there are between them".As I have told earlier I used to feel in the early stages of our married life whether we will be a good match because there are so many differences between us. I know in every couple there are many differences . God makes the matches, some dont become perfect matches, some try and become perfect maches by adjusting , loving and caring.

My dh is so different from me. When young I did not understand him much but now in the old age I have understood him well and live according to his wishes. But somethings I cant change.

Every Tuesday and Saturday we go to the temple together. Sometimes we go at a particular time. Since the maid does not come in time , we try to go before she comes. Sometimes suddenly he will say lets go to the temple before the maid comes. Today also he told and that time I was at the computer . I had not combed my hair and had to change my saree. But he does not see all this. Immediately he went and wore the shirt and went and wore the Chappal too. I had just gone to change my saree. He never noticed that and was ready to leave then I told him to wait and sit. Usually on the days we go to temple I will wear a saree matching to my blouse because there wont be time to change blouse and saree. But today the blouse was not matching , so I had to change that also. Just combed my hair, no time to tie it properly also. I was getting so irritated . My dh never bothers how I dress, he likes whatever way I am. But I like to dress up nicely when I go out but that wish does not get fulfilled on Tuesday and Saturday because we leave in a hurry.

Some men are so particular about everything, about the way their wife to be, about the food they have, they have so many expectations about their married life but my dh is so simple, he doe snot have any expectations and is happy with whatever he has . He is only interested in doing social work and puts his heart and soul in it.I am very blessed to have him as my husband. No doubt he has some principles which he follows. There is so much to write but I am not getting proper words to put my feelings in writing.

vathsala30 · May 3, 2014

you are so lucky vijima, to have a loving hubby. Wish all ladies should get this type of understanding , loving, and caring husbands to lead a happy married life. Ofcourse my hubby is also a gem of a person and whatever is said about his virtues, it is less.

jayasala42 · May 3, 2014

Dear Viji,
Very nice snippet. An ideal couple!My amma used to say that it may take even 25 to 30 years for the couple to understand each other.Till such time life goes on by mutual give and take.
In most of the houses men may be able to understand women better and vice versa may not be true. It is because of the over-involvement of women in house hold duties and certain biological problems.
After 35 years when the man and woman totally reconcile with their differences, want live the life peacefully,sometimes major health problems stand as an impediment and they are unable to make compromises for the past mistakes. It may be too late to make amends.
It is wiser to to accept the partners in' as is where is condition',accept the strength and weaknesses . As each man and woman is entirely different no single advice will hold worthy.Harmony is a product of'self learning.

Jayasala 42

shyamala1234 · May 4, 2014

Dear Viji madam,

I am glad you have a very good and understanding husband.

I think after some tears of togetherness couple accept each other as they are and no complaints. Complaints, trying to change each other, all these are in the initial stages of marriage. Later on it is all peaceful co existence.
Thank you.
Syamala

iyerviji · May 6, 2014

Vathsala dear thanks for the first fb and sorry for the delayed reply. Ya dear I am lucky to havea loving hubby and glad that your hubby is a gem of a person

iyerviji · May 6, 2014

Jaya dear glad you liked the snippet. Thanks for your thought provoking fb

iyerviji · May 6, 2014

Shyamala dear yes I am blessed to have him. Yes after some years of togetherness couples understand each other and so they lead a peaceful life
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Aria · May 19, 2014

"When two people are meant for each other, no time is too long, no distance is too far, and no one can ever tear them apart"
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So beautiful even to just read , and the experience is worth falling in love to experience it!

Thank you for the sweet post.

iyerviji · May 21, 2014

Thanks Aria for the appreciation

Aria said: ↑

So beautiful even to just read , and the experience is worth falling in love to experience it!

Thank you for the sweet post.
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Manjureddy · May 22, 2014

Dear Viji
Thats a very sweet write up.
Doing things because we want to,and not because someone expected or demanded it, is the best kind of freedom a marriage thrives on. You are so lucky .
I like the fact that you recognise the blessings you have received and feel grateful for it. That is a great quality that enriches life.
The quotation found in the attachment is deeply insightful.
Best wishes.