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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by inteloddy, Jan 28, 2014.

  1. inteloddy

    inteloddy New IL'ite

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    It was very much in double mind to take suggestions from IL members about this Issue. We are married since 3 years and its a n arrange marriage. We both are working. One day when I returned home from work early coincidently I wasnt aware there would be nyone home. I Opened entered home and too my shock I found my husband wearing my saree and sitting in our beadroom. I really didnt knew how to react to the situation. I just smashed the door and felt like running away from home. but I controlled my self. I cried a lot whole night. this happened a week back. Since that day we both partners are not talking to each other. My husband tried to talk to me many times by I m avoiding it.. Whenever I think of it tears start rolling from my eyes. Please suggest me what should I do to this situation.I just feel to leave him and run away from the relationship.
     
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  2. stillwaters

    stillwaters Gold IL'ite

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    Dear intelody
    hi , your husband is most probably indulging in a behavior called as cross dressing.
    But this behavior may also indicate other stronger leanings towards wanting to be a female.
    So the first thing you need to do is to give your husband a chance to explain. Then you should get him evaluated by a psychiatrist who can give you the exact details about his condition.
    This will help you to choose what direction to take.
    But the most important thing is to be compassionate and understanding to your husband and not to treat him as a freak or a cheater but as a dignified human being who is suffering from something which is beyond his control.
     
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  3. inteloddy

    inteloddy New IL'ite

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    Thanks Stillwaters for the suggestion. I will def try talking to him
    But whenever I think of talking to him or he comes in front of me I couldnt forget the sight of him in my cloths... the way he was dressed. He didnt miss a single clothing to wear including my inners a blouse petticoat and a saree.. It was really shattering for me. I can understand the fact but m in double mind. He is good at bed but after that incident I doubt whether he is a gay..
     
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  4. Deepanv

    Deepanv Senior IL'ite

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    Hi,
    Don't think of extreme things like psychological disorder and all.. he must hve meant to give you a surprise you or maybe make you laugh.. or must hve tried out of curiosity.. See we think it is perfectly ok for women to wear clothes like men.. but we feel weird when men try our clothes.. he must hve been curious how we wear a saree and would have tried it out of curiosity. Speak to him. He would be able to explain it.
     
  5. inteloddy

    inteloddy New IL'ite

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    Thanks Deepa..
    Will def try talking to him on this issue. But please dont mind why will man behave such a way out of curiosity. It is so wiered even to wear my blouse and undergarments. Please I would like to have your opinion what will be ur action if u are in my place.
     
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    CrayoNess Platinum IL'ite

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    Crossdressing is quite common habit and has nothing to with homosexuality. Here is on article on that (you can find a lot more on the internet): Cross-dressing - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

    How about if you show that link (or some other factual link about the subject) and take the discussion from there?
     
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  7. Akanksha1982

    Akanksha1982 IL Hall of Fame

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    This is a troll. OP, you need some psychologist evaluation.

    You saw him in Saree and ran out. How come you figured out that he is wearing your undergarments as well?
     
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    darmesh Platinum IL'ite

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    I don't think, it is a troll. Benefit of doubt can be given to the OP.

    Assuming that she is a genuine wife, as CrayoNess has said above, 'cross-dressing' is a weird behaviour. But it has nothing to do with homosexuality.
     
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    Nandshyam IL Hall of Fame

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    Please start the communication ASAP..

    also learn before judging ..this has nothing to do with being gay....
     
  10. Priya4oct

    Priya4oct Gold IL'ite

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    Friends,

    even i feel this is a troll. If I remember correctly there was another similar thread initiated by new member few weeks back. When I saw first time this thread I didn't notice time stamp and though it's same what I had read earlier. Just now noticing time stamp
     

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