Another IUI or consider an IVF?

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  1. Indianwife2000

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    Hi ladies,

    As many of you probably know me that I have undergone 4 IUIs so far....and no positive result yet! My 4th IUI was done on Dec 6th and I had absolutely no symptoms during the 2ww....so I kind of knew that this cycle also failed. However, I took an HPT yesterday to confirm and it did come out negative. I have stopped taking progesterone....and I guess my periods will show up in 3-4 days.

    Now my dilemma begins.....I am very confused and also a little scared about the next steps.....I am wondering if I should consider another IUI or directly go to the IVF route now? I had a lengthy talk with my doctors and they think I should consider IVF now, given that I am 35 plus and I have endometriosis. As per them, things will not get better and with age, more problems may crop up . Also, on the personal front, I have a daughter who is already 6 plus, so I am concerned about the age gap too.

    Please ladies....pour in your thoughts, ideas, suggestions, advice on what I should do? Sometimes I think I should just drop the idea and be happy with one kid....but my DD keeps asking for a sibling and I feel sad for her. Sometimes I think, I should try one or two more IUIs before going to IVF. And then there are times....when I feel, I should not be too scared about IVF and get it done, since millions of women have gone through it and had healthy babies. I am very confused and I have to let my doctor know about my next steps once my AF shows up.

    Please help me make the right decision.
     
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  2. WiniPooh

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    Hi IW...Personally I am against IVF, but then it depends on how much of madness you can deal with. If you are mentally and physically prepared, please proceed with the IVF. It will definately atleast help to give some clarity on the quality of your eggs.
     
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    In my personal opinion you can go for 2 more iui's. as this is your second child.
    if you are mentally as well physically strong then without expectation just give a try for 1 ivf.

    -mrithula
     
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    Thanks WP for your input. Just wondering why you are against IVF? I know it is a lot of effort physically and emotionally....so yes, I agree with you on that aspect. But are there any other reasons too? I am only trying to make sure that I have all the details, all pros and cons before I move into that direction. Please let me know.
     
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    Thanks Mrithula for your views too.

    Physically, I think I can take this but mentally, I am not so sure....that's why the dilemma. I also thought of going through another IUI, but since my last 4 IUIs have failed and even my doctors are saying that chances of success are very slim with IUIs and much better with IVF, I should now consider that....that's their advice. Of course, the final decision has to be made by me and my DH.

    Thank you again for sharing your views. If you think of something else on this aspect, please let me know.
     
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    Hello Indianwife,
    :hugs: hugsmiley if I were in your place, I would have moved on to ivf, considering the age factor. Since you are 35+, I guess a more rigorous treatment would be a good option. However, your doc must be the right one to answer this. Take second opinions from different docs but have faith on one doc and just proceed how she leads you.
    Loads and trucks of baby dust for all of us!
     
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    Thank you so much Twinkle for your view point too. My doctors also think along the same line...and so does my DH. Even he thinks with our time constraint and endometriosis, we should go ahead with IVF. But like I said earlier....emotionally, I think I am not prepared....since it is a big step. So very confused and not able to make a decision either way.

    Thank you for giving me your honest opinion, Twinkle.

    Take care and baby dust to you too!!!
     
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    Hi Indianwife...Have seen my friends go down the IVF route and they all struggled emotionally & mentally with it. One needs to be in the right mindset to go through that and also be prepared for the fact that IVF has 40% - 45% success, still not 100% in favour. Personally I would prefer to go conservative, but then if the situation demands a more aggressive mode, then I would recommend that you muster the strength and go through the IVF...we guys are here to help you through this madness!

    Trucks of prayers for you....
     
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    Being emotionally prepared is very important, in any fertility treatments. When you take stress and unwanted pressure, it may not work for you. List out the points you are worried/concerned about ivf and have an indepth discussion with your dh and doc.
    All the best, we are all here with you!
     
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    Hi WP....thanks so much once again for your input and kind words. I agree with you completely that even with IVF, chances of success are only 40-50%, not 100%. But as per my doc, it is way better than an IUI...hence the IVF direction.

    I was so much hoping to get a BFP with my IUIs....but it didn't happen. I also wanted to avoid IVF as much as possible....but here I am now.....

    My periods haven't come yet....hopefully it will come by tomorrow and then I will again talk to my doctor.

    Take care!
     

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