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Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by coolpinky, Mar 6, 2013.

  1. beanstalk

    beanstalk Gold IL'ite

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    hahaha.... I remember this comment once from my grandma&aunt to my cousin- why cant you go alone, why do you need your wife to tag with you everywhere. The cousin is very upfront about everything so he answered...
    "par maa... apni nahi to padosi ki le jaaoon, magar tum to tab bhi bura maan jaaogi."

    Translation:
    "what mom.. If not mine,should I take neighbor's wife, but then you would be more upset."
     
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  2. satyasrinivas80

    satyasrinivas80 Silver IL'ite

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    My FIL is spendthrift.. Even after spending for all their expenses (medical, travel, day to day), he is still planning for his future safety when he is already 65+.. then what about DH, Me and baby who is on the way?

    Your FIL is a carbon copy of my FIL. Even though we take care of all their expenses (read needs and wants), FIL wants my dh to send $500/month so that he can spend for no reason. My dh asked FIL once what is he doing with the extra money then my FIL stopped talking to dh altogether and gosspied the whole village that his son is not sending any money to them. The village people started calling and giving suggestions to my dh how to take care of the old parents!
     
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    may this last long. all the best. :thumbsup

     
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  4. anjananathan

    anjananathan Platinum IL'ite

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    Good that ur DH asked. In my case, DH always keeps his mouth sealed and if at all he will ask, he will ask his mom which is of no use..

    My DH cant even ask his father to register his own property in his name.. DH is not understanding the legal complexities that is gonna come if my FIL does not settle properly.. any grand child can claim bcos it will be grand pa's property..

    though i dont think abt thier medical or day to day expenses, it is always the extra money which FIL wants for one thing or the other..
     
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    mil alert :drowning She is arriving tomorrow :spin
    And am already nervous :bang How would I bear her for months to come? :eek:mg:
     
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  6. shantana

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    i had the same feelings when i married to my dh 5 years back. i tot i have the best mil and sil. but as things get further, after my first baby in 2010 and second born in last year, i realised her true nature.
    and went we moved out to rent temporarily while our house is on renovation this april, i came to knew mil and sil's true faces. and the different on they behave infront of me and behind on my back.
    previously if i complain anything to co-sis she will just tell me to let it go and accept it. but now days she has alot to complain because mil stay with them most of the time and she realises mil's true colour also.
    she herself asked me how i had tolerated with her all this long.......
     
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  7. anjananathan

    anjananathan Platinum IL'ite

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    if it is the control, then i would nt really bother like this..but in my case, my FIL has some plans.. once he told my DH " hey now itself dont say that you dont need share in my property (FIL's house)" .. when i asked my DH, he told he said that when he was earning nicely in US and before marriage... my FIL wants to give all his property to first 2 sons and give my DH property to him .. bcos he knows that we both are earning good.. though nothing is decided but i am not really bothered abt FIL's property .. my only concern is our money which we are earning by running like mad ppl from 6.30 AM to 7.30 PM.. i want to safe guard atleast that for now..
     
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  8. shantana

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    hah!!! there u go. theory can never be same with practical. wish u all the best for your practical execution!!!!

     
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    yess :-D so far, my practicals were good because dh was around. let me see how she chooses to be with me when both of us are left alone. Am all prepared, or at least I guess so :-(
     
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    Thanks a lot! :)
     
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