It happens only at In-laws's house

Minara,

in reply to your silly comment for buying you a home.
If my MIL was in that scene, She would come sit beside her son.
And try to ask him why don't you buy a home for me First sonny.
then for your wife.After all you my son first and then her Hubby.
Thank god your MIL asked your FIL.

 

My MIL is opposite,
She has a dream of becoming a modern MIL.
I generally don't wear saree, but just for the sake of it 1 day I wore saree when MIL was at home.
She told me not to wear as whole day she will be in her dirty nighty.
She said "see if you wear, saree people will make fun of me.See DIL wearing saree and MIL wearing nighty".
Now she keeps asking me to buy her salwars that I wear.
Don't know when the day will come she will ask me to buy Jeans for her.:hide:

 

You could buy a few capris and maxi dresses and "gift" them to her saying that she is the coolest MIL ever.

and could persuade her to try them on esp for FIL so mr. PP king will be super impressed... wat say??

 

what a senseless, pathetic and disgusting logic When your mil is smart, you should be super smart. You should sweet talk saying "Honey, for me, you are the first priority. Anybody else, including me and even our kids would come next. I want you to be happy and proud. For me, even a peice of paper or a lavish car or a home, the list should go like, first for you, then for kids... and then, depending on situation you should decide upon parents or me... Whatever it is, am NOT letting you buy or build anything for your parents that you or your kids dont have. It aches me to see you deprived of anything :-( "

When these mamma's boys cannot cut the umbilical cord, its time that should be ripped off!

 

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our twinkle is after our BG for giving back there and then. we have to learn more from them.


personally i feel it better to give it back right on their faces rather than flaming inside our heart. my co-sis is a person who wont keep anything at heart and speak spontaneously, and im generally not outspoken and will keep in side my heart and complain to myself. so and sil and mil will be very careful dealing with co-sis, scared she will say anything right on their face and bil really support her very much. but im their scapegoat and dh also normally support them only.

 

in front of your husband tell your mil to take rest as she has worked a lot for the family with sugar coated tone.
continue,as you like to share her burden:you are feeding me .i feel guilty.i want to learn something from you as she knows everything. like this and all...........
don't bring the tone that me too cook for my husband.but praise her for being such an active person etc.grab the kitchen slowly through your husband.simply put words when you both are alone that how much she work,i want to learn from her,i like to give her rest........
so make your husband to feel that you are worrying about her.surely one day he will tell his mom to take rest and make you to cook.

 

Then why expect support from dh at all...? Whenever you are hurt or feel bad, slam it right across their face, being as rude and mean as they were. Donot bother dh's presence and don't look for support. Being softspoken is a very good quality I say, but it must be limited to people who are worth it! you should not be vulnerable to any kind of abuse. prepare yourself to fight with your dh too and you can ask him to stay away from inlaws issues if he cant support you. Remember, afterall, wife is the queen of their life and its absolutely in our hands to make their life hell or heaven. Make him realize that he better keep you happy for him to be happy,and also that normal husbands would "understand" and by "default" righteously support his wife.

 

Same with my MIL too, whatever i'm having , she also buy that either she asked her son or she buy it whenever she visits chennai... she never ask those things in front of me to my DH. She never use those things also

 

Good that ur DH started realizing this but my DH buys everything she asks even if it is already in her almirahs