Who has more right in naming the baby? Parents or Grand Parents?

Hi Sowmya,

Baby's parents only have the rights to select the name.

 

Baby's parents!!

 

It should be the baby's parents. But in practical the one who is so demanding will get the chance, as not everyone is interested in conflicts at the time of the new arrival, na?

I always wanted to name my little son Aron... I was okay with whatever the second name given to him. My husband came up with a second name starting with S, so that it matches with our names (both my name and hubby's name starts with S). We planned a name for the baby and almost communicated to him (when he was inside the tummy) using that name only.

My MIL suddenly came in, and rejected the name Aron. She also rejected the other name thinking it was also my selection. She came up with yet another name citing some astrological and neurological reason. It was all of a sudden, and we had to name the kid before we discharge the hospital to get the birth certificate done. I was too tired to argue with her, specially after knowing my husband was almost in favor of his mom's choice than of mine. So, I gave that up. My little son was named as per MIL's wish with just one name only.

Months passed by, and we all started realizing as to how much suffering I had to face before, during and after the delivery and through out his life as a mother. How much responsibility we are taking to raise him. How my physical and mental stress that we are facing on a daily basis to meet this son's need, where as in our case, MIL is all here to compare him with other kids and pass rude remarks. She never even once baby sat with him or helped us at least emotionally whenever we were down, following our son's illness.

So, I decided to change my son's given name legally, and named him at his 1st birthday as Aron with the second name chosen by my husband. We all are happy. We have a pet name for him, and he doesn't know anything about the name changing. MIL is furious as always, but who cares.

Sorry for the long post.. But I feel that no one should force something on to a mother when it comes to parenting or naming as such. All can suggest, but forcing makes them immoral, and they deserve the right punishment.

 

Its not about rights. Its all about mutual thinking and arrive at a point. See grand parents would feel that its a privilege for them. So they come up with a name and its a blessings also. You can always consult with each other and take suggestion no harm in that. When my niece was born her name was suppose to start with S and everyone asked my mother because she gets all those poetic and names which has significance too. She named her Sulagna (Means the one who is born in a very good lagna) everyone accepted it wholeheartedly. Now where ever she goes people ask the significance of her name and they like it. If that time my brother or SIL would have rejected the name and would have kept something else no harm in that. But they say that they would not have come up with a better name. So it differs from person to person. If you dont like a name then for certificate purpose change it. May be grand parents call their grand child with what ever they like and you keep one what ever you like. I feel proud when I say I have many names, parents call me this, grand parents call me by this name and some names I have got from my nephews, niece and friends too hahahaha. After all what is there in a name.

 

The one who bears the pain to give birth unless She delegates the task to someone else by her own will.

 

Hi,

I could understand your feelings...

Parents have the right to name the child especially the mother -- this is just my opinion.

for my daughter, when pregnant, we decided to name the child irrespective of its gender with "sai" either as prefix or suffix kind along with name as per astrology.

we named her sai sanjana...

Now that in your case, dont let this issue eat your head, cos i have gone through the same feelings when pregnant. You can name your child whatever as you want. As the other poster has mentioned that she had changed her son's name,it could also be done .

Now be happy and start preparation for welcoming your little one.

Wishing you a happy and safe delivery.

May Satguru Sairam be with you.