Need Help

Hello mommies,
This is not a toddler problem, but a problem more to do with me. My DS is now 14 mos old. He has never been a great sleeper, and every time he teeths or hits a growth spurt, any sleep routine that I tried to put into place goes for a full toss. In the process, I am going insane..literally. I work from home, have a day time nanny to look after him, and I take care of him during other times. Hubby works long hours, but of late has been putting him to sleep, so I am getting some relief. But DS wakes up often in the night, and is fussy and needs to be rocked, walked and just when you think he is asleep will wake up again and the cycle continues. He has been teething, and I give him homeo for it, which does give his relief. He also has again become very gassy, and it hits only after 11 pm. I assume because he is trying more new foods, so his tummy is getting adjusted to the new things. This causes his sleep to be disturbed, mine and hubbys too. Hubby seems to be able to cope much more easily that I am.
I was checked for low iron levels and it turns I do have low iron, hence the fatigue. I am working on getting it up through tabs and diet. I also have recently tried to start yoga again, which I was very very regular with pre pregnancy. Every time a routine gets disrupted, I go crazy, especially in the night, and I keep cribbing and crabbing in the night, and get very angry, which I’m sure is not good for my little one. I feel very guilty in the morning, and resolve that I will not do so again, but the same cycle continues.
I used to be able to cope with it very easily before. There was a period between when he was 5 mos to 8 mos where he would not sleep the whole night, and I seemed to have managed perfectly well. Why am I finding this difficult? I am very uptight and am not able to relax, and take it easy, and in the process not able to enjoy my little one.
Please help. Any advice, or if any of you has gone through something similar, how did you cope with this? I am trying my best to work my way through this, but the anger and fatigue is now getting old, and I am just at my wits end trying to come with strategies to cope with it.
Thank you in advance.

 

Thank you so much for your replies mommies.

Rakhi: He was taking two naps. He is a night owl, and sleeps only after 12:00 AM. I had got him used to sleeping between 10 and 11 PM, but one teething episode brought him right back to square one. In the past few days, after I wrote this thread, he has suddenly transitioned to one nap in the day! He used to sleep 2-3 hours spread out into two naps...but is now doing only one nap for 2 hours. This nap is usually around 3-4 PM. He is still sleeping only after 12:00 AM, but had gas, so maybe that kept him awake. Today again he seems to have bounced back to his old routine..this was roughly his routine before this sleep thing hit.
Between 9 AM and 10 AM - Wake up
10:30 AM - Bfast, bath, play
1:00 PM – Lunch, play and then Nap (sometimes he would nap as soon as he eats, sometimes would play awhile and then nap)
3:00-4:00 PM - Wake up and 6 oz. milk
5:00 PM – play and snack (fruit, or anything else available)
6:00-7:00 PM – Nap
7:30 – 8:00 PM – Dinner and play
10:00 PM to 11:00 PM – 6 on. milk and bed. There is no routine here, as he is a natural fighter for sleep. No matter how tired he is, he would NOT fall asleep on his own. So, rocking, walking and singing to sleep are the only thing that works so far.
I guess I’m just a little tired of this constant bouncing between routines. There has never been a consistency in his routine since the day he was born, no matter how hard I try.
Guesshoo..thanks for stopping by with your kind words.
Dinny: I do ensure I eat a lot of iron rich foods daily so that my energy levels come back up soon.
Breeze: I do give him colic aid for the gas.

I am working on my anger issues, but I think a good nights sleep will work wonders. Till then coffee and green tea is helping me tide through this phase. :|

 

Will try this and see.

 

Will try this too Ammani. Thanks for your reply.