My daughter's feels unsafe..plz advice me

komaldev · Jun 26, 2013

My name is komal dev from ahmedabad gujarat..
Need some advices regarding my daughter .
my 3 years little baby girl always feels insecure (unsafe) ,every body loves her alot and cares her, but from childhood she is like that, she started sucking thumb, she never allow to touch her things or even home things to any body other than her family members, even in school she doesn't put water bag down, and try to not give her books to teacher, on going to tution she dont want to wear her shoes coz she scares some one will steal her shoes, she is always crying on small thins even in sleeping.every body loves her even neighbours loves and cares her but she still feel scary and unsafe , we are so much worried about her nature coz this nature will not allow her to face th problems of life in future. Plz anybody help us..

plz

umaakumar · Jun 28, 2013

Dear Komaldev,

It is just a passing phase in some children. Nothing to get alarmed about. Once they grow they get over it.

Regards
Uma

SangeeVenkee · Jun 28, 2013

Your DD is only three years and I feel its quite natural for her to feel that way. Nothing to worry.

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smileAlways · Jun 28, 2013

I think it's just "mine" phase. Invite her cousins/friends for play date regularly. Let her share her toys with them. Slowly she will understand things will be hers, yet she can share with others

Why do you send 3yr old for tuition?

upavi · Jun 28, 2013

smileAlways said: ↑

Why do you send 3yr old for tuition?
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Very good question?

anmolhai · Jun 28, 2013

Its just a phase. Keep encouraging her that its going to be ok & lets see if anyone takes it and then show that her things are still there. It will pass

big concern is why a 3 yrs old going to tution??

hotchillipepper · Jun 28, 2013

Every child is different. Give her some time she'll adapt.

sweetshreya · Jun 28, 2013

I noticed, those who asked 'why tuition' are not from India. The situation has gone from bad to worse in our country. Nowadays every child from smallest class needs and gets a tuition to keep up with the competition. My cousin, who is 6yrs old, has 17 subjects in school. Out of which she takes extra tuition for 8. She even has 5 hrs of classes every Sunday. Its heartwrenching to see these babies struggle so much to keep abreast with parental as well as societal expectations. :-(

FreeSpirit20 · Jun 28, 2013

Are you serious SS ??! That is too bad, 6 yr old ??

sweetshreya said: ↑

I noticed, those who asked 'why tuition' are not from India. The situation has gone from bad to worse in our country. Nowadays every child from smallest class needs and gets a tuition to keep up with the competition. My cousin, who is 6yrs old, has 17 subjects in school. Out of which she takes extra tuition for 8. She even has 5 hrs of classes every Sunday. Its heartwrenching to see these babies struggle so much to keep abreast with parental as well as societal expectations. :-(
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arthimahalakshm · Jun 28, 2013

see,by saying competition we people always expect kids to do nicely and it creates pressure in them.
dear op,no need to worry as she is only 3 years.moreover don't expect too much from her in marks wise.
at this age she must identify the things and speak easily with others.instead of sending her to tuition better take her to a nearby park and allow her to play freely.as for as my children are concerned i never sent my children for tuition and they are academically good.it doesn't mean that i sit with them for studies.because nowadays childre fedup with the pressure of being top scorers and at one stage they hate studying.
so motivate your kid by saying school is the place where she can play,have friends .masti and maza..even if she does score poor grades don't worry about it.