How to make him see sense!?

Re: How to make his see sense!?

This is news to me !! Frankly, all this while I was assuming her to be a widow, and that's why staying with you :bonk

I like SilverTulip's advice. From your description of her, she really looks in some kind of unbalanced state of mind. Treat her like one. Keep on telling your husband how she needs treatment. In fact, I really feel he is not at all a good son if he keeps on ignoring her behavior. She stays alone the whole day. God knows what she will fill up in her head. She is only verbally abusive now. She can turn physical too. What if she tries to hurt herself? Drill it into his head, until he feels guilty about his impotence and starts considering a medical intervention in your house. Spread the word. Tell the neighbors to keep a look at her during day time.

You may feel its all very manipulative and I'm telling something grossly melodramatic. But look at her from a detached point of view (or tell it to a doctor) and even you will agree that she needs help. It should be easier for you to accept at least, if not your husband. Try your utmost to convince him that you are only wishing the best.

 

Re: How to make his see sense!?

Don't fight. You win!

And what she says about your parents, is actually a reflection of her own character.

Practice the blank stare when she goes on a rampage.

P.S.

"dehati, gawaar, asanskaari" these words fit her best. don't they? ;-)

 

Re: How to make his see sense!?

Yes, dont involve neighbors. But yes, make him feel that everyone and everything is fine but his mother suspects them to be wrong/bad. She is depressed with unstable state of mind, right? :twisted:

Manipulation is the only way in this drama and u need to manipulate the circumstances dear to let ur DH know that he is being a jerk by ignoring his dear mother's treatment and he needs to take her for medical help for her depression! :evil:

 

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Gosh Smriti....ur MIL is behaving a twin to my MIL. Just recently we had been visiting our native with her to meet DH's old grandparents (her PILs) I was so happy when she decided to stay for a while there as her MIL was ill. My insides were doing "jhumping jhapang:banana"on our return journey coz she wasnt there in the back seat of the car. 3 days went by with such peace. & then that dreadful morning on 4th day where she calls her dear son that she is already on her way back.

She had stayed there coz there was some function after 2 days. She had no wish to stay & take care of her MIL. Now situation is my grand MIL is really unwell & the lady who takes care of her had not turned up for the whole week that MIL was there. Still she had guts to leave her ailing MIL without a caretaker & come back. Reason....she cant cook & take care...she herself has too many health issues. Real reason....she cannot pasaarofy on sofa in front of TV the whole day without practically moving her toe for anything. My FIL does every possible thing for his parents. & now I am very sure even he doesnt want her there.....

Now back here she is fuming that FIL has to cook breakfast for his parents coz the cook comes late:roll:.

 

Re: How to make his see sense!?

How do you know she gives me such gyan of how liberalized she is regarding me??

yaar smriti....even I am fed up this & I dont see any end to this. Last whole evening she was justifying to someone over phone that how she cannot stay at native. It means she is getting pressurized from FIL's relatives (her SIL I guess) to stay there.....FIL himself is not uttering a single word for her to come there.

 

Re: How to make his see sense!?

Should i prick you to do it?

Huh well why do you think we ( me and mil ) dont talk when i watch tv?

 

Re: How to make his see sense!?

Wow.. she considers you goddess? Tell her she better do seva for goddess too.

Why dont you attempt to create distance smriti, maybe then she will 'leave'. :rotfl