How to make him see sense!?

Hi guys..

I have not updated few of the recent events at my place here.. So I'm telling everything in short. There have been quite a few 'huge' shouting rows at my place because well, everything that goes wrong in my in-laws place is due to my parents.

DH's tab is stolen. My parents fault. (They didn't inspire me to put his things properly. Apparently, putting it in a drawer is not a proper place. It is not MIL's fault that the maid stole the tab when MIL was overlooking her work)

Money stolen from DH's wallet. My parents fault.

A close relative of mine expires and my fathers sister call up MIL to inform about this and not my dad because he is busy with arranging the last rites. An insult to my in-laws. Dad should leave the preparation aside and call in-laws personally. That to not just one person. Both MIL and FIL. Separately.

DH eats chocolate from the fridge when MIL is asleep. She blames me for eating things after everyone is asleep. :shock:

Few more. Lost count of the reasons.

So, in all these serious blunders of me and my parents, MIL went on shouting spree, calling my parents dehati, gawaar, asanskaari, not teaching the daughter anything, filling up her ears to create fights in the house, taking undue advantage of their love for their son, bla bla and more bla bla.

DH shouted back. Yeah. Stood up for me. And I stood like a statue with open mouth unable to understand the logic behind any shoutings.

Since, DH shouted at her (or FIL too if he was included), it was again my parents fault.

Even after all this, DH forgets every incident just 24 hours later. He just forgets what I go through listening those taunts and jibes.

Today, I had some argument with him. I wanted to visit my parents and he told me that I dont consider his parents as mine even after 2 years of marriage. They do things for me considering me a daughter (oh yes!) and I dont reciprocate their feelings and keep missing my parents.

I couldnt reply anything. How can a person forget all this?? ALL THIS??? He thinks his parents consider me a daughter???

His mom even went to the extent of saying that she wishes that her son gets a early divorce. Because she knows what kind of girl entered her family since the day we got married. And she is pretty sure that I will break their family. Instead, it is better, his marriage breaks.

Even after this, he says his mom is under severe depression and speaks things in anger which we should forget!!

His solution is that I should forget my parents and worship his parents. Then, they will accept me. That is not possible for me. Why should I worship people who abuse me constantly????

I'm really at a loss to explain him what way I am being treated. Will he ever understand??

Or will he continue to keep his eyes closed to the hell I go through in co-existing with these people? It seems that his anger at his parents is only temporary. And when looking at their faults, he suffers from severe memory loss unable to recall any harsh words spoken by his parents to me!

I really want some end to it. How do I make him see that his parents hate me and they want us to fight and separate. They dont care. They just want their son to remain under their control forever.

I hope I have been able to explain things properly.

Thanks in advance.

 

Re: How to make his see sense!?

U misunderstand! She doesn't say all this in his absence. She says it in his presence.

And he defies her when she is speaking all this, but forgets the very next day and keeps on asserting that his mom considers me a daughter and has my best interests at heart.