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Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by msid, May 21, 2013.

  1. msid

    msid Silver IL'ite

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    " Wrote this sometime back...the thing which still gives me pain.... Just wanted to share... "

    Sometimes, in life you may feel you should have never heard few things. But when you hear those and you get to know you that you could do nothing about it, its worse. I would like to share few things here which are of very serious concern but still happen in our country. Recently when I saw a certain episode Aamir khan's Satyamev Jeyathe, it triggered off few memories.

    I was born in a small town called Thanjavur ( Tamil Nadu, India) . My childhood was full of happiness. I was one of the kids who grew up in mothers love, dad's affection and I would be very happy to go back and live my childhood if I was given a chance. Life never works for everyone the same way. When I was on seventh grade I met this girl Swetha ( that's not her name ! ) . She had moved to my small town from Hyderabad. Whenever I go to play in park I see this girl sitting alone near see saw, with some lost thoughts. At that age, I have only seen adults lost in thoughts. But she never talked to us or played with us. She would come to the park with her grandmother and she would be alone all the time. I thought she may be upset as she missed her friends from Hyderabad and she hated this small old fashioned town. I don know why , me or my friends never asked her to play with us or join our chats. We just left her alone until one day when her granny came to us and she asked us to include her in our games. It was after that I started talking with her. Swetha was very intelligent and talented. She started winning every game we played. Whether it is chess or cricket, she competed equally with all of us. Soon she became a sensation in our gang. Though she seemed very happy when she played with us, I always felt there is something missing in her which we all had. At that time, I was too young to realize what it was. Now, after so many years I realized what she missed " Happiness in her eyes " . When you are really happy, when you have nothing to worry, the happiness can be seen in your eyes. If you go to a park and notice children playing in the park you could see it in their eyes which you could never find in your work environment or day to day life. I was too young to understand all this by that time.

    As time went by, Swetha became one of my best friends and I spent a lot of time with her. She used to share me a lot of things but I always felt there is something she is hiding from me. It was a year after me and my family had to move to another town and I had to say goodbye to all my friends. Though I moved to another place I kept in touch with swetha through letters and phone. It was four years later, when i was in my 12th grade I got a call from my friend that Swetha has attempted suicide. It was a shock to me and I went to see her immediately. I was wondering what could be the reason for the attempt. Could it be the reason behind her sadness ? . I was so puzzled and I asked her about it when we were alone. The things she said was so shocking to me and I still remember how awful I felt that day. Could these things happen ? . It was above my imagination. Swetha have been experiencing sexual abuse since her childhood. The most unbelievable thing was, it was from her own father. She cried to me that day telling me all the stuff that her father did to her ( which I don like to mention here ) and that's the reason she left Hyderabad and lived in this small town with her grand parents. Her mom passed away when she was young and her dad has remarried another woman. The cruel thing I heard is her step mother was also involved in the abuse. When she was a child, she didn't understand what she had gone through but she felt something was wrong and that's why she was sad all the time. The housemaid in Hyderabad somehow informed about these to her grand parents and thus they brought her here. As she grew up , she began to understand the things she had gone through and thus she tried to commit suicide. I dint have maturity to provide her a solution or counsel her at that time. But I still regret that I should have done something because she is not alive anymore. After a year she attempted suicide again, and it took her life. She could never recover from those thoughts. A life of a brilliant girl went in vain. She didn't deserve that and there was no mistake on her side. Things like this, sometimes make me question the existence of god. Recently when I watched the episode of satyamev jeyathe , which was about child sexual abuse, they did not touch this topic. May be its too sensitive and hard to accept, but things like this happen. Not so often but they do happen significantly. On the same episode children were counselled that they should inform their parents if someone engaged on sexual abuse. But what if the parents were the reason ? . Difficult to imagine and digest right ? . But I still read about these stuffs then and there which ends in psychological disorder of kids or even death ( like swetha's case ) . I still feel sex education should be given to children and they should know how to act in these type of situations.

    Parental sex abuse is the worst thing that could ever happen to a child. I still feel guilty that I couldn't do much for swetha more than few convincing words. Every child in this world has a right to be secure. Friends, If u hear anything like this try to help that child, secure him/her, give him/her what he/she deserves ... Hope these things never happen in the world :(
     
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  2. Chitravivek

    Chitravivek Platinum IL'ite

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    These are the worst things that can happen to anyone. Everytime I read such stories I get knots in my stomach and my heart stops for a moment. How can people be so cruel ?
     
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    I know.... I could never come out of it.. even after years !
     
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    I am sorry you had such an experience. But you cannot blame yourself for this. At that age we cant be good advisors... I think Swetha will be in my mind for a long time. May her sould rest in peace.
     
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    I pray for that everyday !
     
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    ITs sad and a feeling of anger builds up at the same time. Parents are supposed to be the most pious relationship of all , outside India I hear about this a lot on the TV, but cannot say how my reaction would be if I were in your situation and you lost a friend.

    Really hope such things never happen in the world, truly wish
     
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    yeah, ppl think these things don happen around us. Sadly they do... Hope this never happens to any child..
     

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