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Confessions of a DIL

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by beingloved, Apr 11, 2013.

  1. bubblygal

    bubblygal Platinum IL'ite

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    Well i never thought like that!I felt why would she interfere in my life!Ofcourse dumb that i am!
     
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  2. vini31

    vini31 Gold IL'ite

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    do a good RCA (root cause analysis) for all the bad situations and check where the pblm lies, many a times u can mis the miss pretty pratty of the ILs
     
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  3. bubblygal

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    Yes sometimes we turn blind, i was blind for a real long time!But anyways i am self content with my life, so she cant do anything to me, this even dh knows so she is going to get bored, i have laid the bait, i am waiting for the fish to fall in my net!:)
     
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    Wow, another thread with all imp ILs presence.....Gud...
     
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  5. OliveOyl

    OliveOyl Gold IL'ite

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    I have a confession too.

    I just hate the fact that FIL likes my DS more than my DD. So every time they visit or I visit, I make sure I lavish extra attention on my DD, spoil her silly, buy best things just for her... I keep praising how good she is in studies, how nice she is in doing everything.

    My FIL will keep responding for everything saying see how intelligent your son is...etc...and I reply..ah but this is nothing.. DD used to do this 6 months before this age...if he says something like DS will grow up to be a strong tall lad just like my son...I say as per the last doctors visit he is grossly underweight and just average in height...

    Sometimes I get evil pleasure in seeing him feel bad that I am borderline neglecting my DS...of course all natak in front of FIL alone!!
     
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  6. soulful

    soulful Platinum IL'ite

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    ditto, except my treatment is a little different. I mute the TV and switch it off and sit there : either reading or IL-ing.

    look on her face when she wakes up and wants to pretend she was not sleeping only to find the TV off for a Loooong time: Priceless
     
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    Okay, okay you are much smarter! Show off!!!
     
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  8. soulful

    soulful Platinum IL'ite

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    :rotfl:rotfl

    All credit goes to my MIL Arch... I am/was a pavam gaay
     
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    Dear Oliveol,please don't continue this.In future,your FIL may try to give false ideas to your son ---Like "Your mother loves your sis more than you.She neglects you."

    Children often believe elders.I can relate this as my grand ma and grand pa induced negative impressions in me about my mother ,when I was young.
     
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    I agree with Kishoremommy.

    Also if your son accidentally overhears this, it will break his heart.

    If your fil is mean to your dd, give him back nicely. Let both your dd and ds see it. Then they will know that their mommy will stand up for them. No need to play games and risk one child resenting you.

    Also if at some point of time you dd catches on to this game, she will think every loving action from you is a fake.

    A lose- lose situation for you.

    Very Sorry for taking the liberty to talk too much about your personal life. But I have seen this in my cousin's family and the siblings ended up hating one another because the dad favored one and the mom tried to compensate by favoring the other child.
     
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