Analyse please. If DH is away , I am happy. Why?

There is nothing wrong in the way you feel .It doesnot make you feel bad .Just like me and my DH sometimes we need a little space to breathe from each other .My DH is also like that .Keeps whining all the time and me any my MIL are like shock absorbers to him .He complaints and makes us worried and then sleeps like a baby and wake next day all cheered up .Over the years I have learned to over come it and I am the happy go lucky person .It always happens with couples iif you spread positive enerygy it spreads around and if you spread negative that gets spread too .

 

I think there is nothing wrong with you. When DH is not there, you have your own girl time which you miss I think. I am guessing you don't have kids yet. Else you will be busy with them

Nothing wrong with you. I feel you enjoy your "alone time" so it is a natural feeling.

 

I think it is a completely natural feeling. It only happens in movies that people want to be inseparable every single second. I too enjoy time with myself when I read books,listen to music or just be alone with my thoughts.

 

It happens with me too. I become so happy when I come to know he will be late . I am saddest on weekends and see again it is a weekend

 

You feel that way because you like to have your own space sometimes.... Being alone for sometime can be therapeutic. Don't worry about it.

 

First off all, there is nothing wrong with you.

But there might be some problems with your relationship. Probably his irrational mood swings and behaviors are affecting you in a subconscious level and you are just happy to be away him from as long as you can. You pretending that you miss him is not going to help either of you. But anyway, be the good person that you are.

If you can get, please read some relationship books by DR. Laura Schlessinger and Dr John Gottman. They helped me a lot in correcting lots of mistakes in my life.

 

As many said they too feel the same, add me in that list. I am married for 6 years now, I used to long to be with my DH before as he used to be busy. But now similar to Snehal, he is become very very moody and I get irritated to see him. Always talking about office topics and always pointing negatively to my comments or any topic I bring up, getting angry on simple things and showing off like always he is right.
So whenever he says he is going out with friends or coming home late. I feel happy and enjoy my time with my DS.
I know this is not a sign of healthy relationship, but all my trials of fixing it has failed. and i m fedup with his standard statement " I am like this only, I will not change"
SO i guess i enjoy my time being far from him.