Feeling so dejected in life!!!

Hey,

I was in your shoes some time back!!! I am working..Yet I feel too lonely and friendless..No one cares too..Everyone just minds their business..My ponderings went endless..when I remade my mind..

Few words of Advice

a) Always keep busy. Frame a tight schedule. Like wake up at 7.00..Excercise,cook a new receipe, listen to a rocky song, try to watch a comedy scene, read newspaper on laptop, call a friend..
b) Never expect anyone to solve your problem. You can never find one. Never leave India now. Just wait for some more time. Solve sudoku..Start watching serials. I knw thats little weird on serials sometime. but it gets you to some routine when you are jobless..Take a walk outside all alone..

You do these for a week,then you will start loving the time you are at home. Slowly time changes and afterall after every winter there is spring.

Dont worry !!!Things will change

 

With 7 yrs experience, you will certainly get a job, sooner or later. Have patience. Till then think of it as official vacation. Relax & have fun. Do everything that you wanted to do, but could not because of job.

 

You need to find the definition of yourself. I think you have used your employment as the definition of who you are but that is a very limited definition. Start meditating on what is your core...what you are more than your job. You might as well do this now as when you are off for a baby or retired its going to hit you and those times are more stressful than now.

You need to get out of the house and see some folks. Go to the library...it's free. Sit at the mall and watch folks. Take a thermos and some snacks so you don't need to buy anything. Some places have walking paths inside and lots of folks doing that. Maybe you will make a friend.

 

Dear OP,

I understand your feelings, as I stayed in abroad for 5 years without much social life but I was working though, I know it's stressful when you r laid off but don't panic may be GOD has something better In store for u, use this time for yourself & for building rapport with ur dh, cook him his favourite recipes as you won't get much time once u start working, check on your health, enhance your beauty, read some good books, if you r religious do some prayers, to enjoy with ur dh not required for u to always go out & spend money, cook some new dish, dress up nicely&arrange a candle light dinner at home,surprise your dh, iam sure he will be thrilled, live your life to the fullest just don't depend on anyone for your happiness trust me no one has time these days... It's very sad tht we Indians just think tht Job is everything to us, but the fact is life is much beyond tht( even I realised the same by observing my Brit friends), pls don't move to India people r much busy here& even job market is little tough now...enjoy dear have fun...

 

Flower(nice username ),

there must be many things which you wanted to do when you were working like cooking,painting,exercising..........just take this break as an opportunity to do whatever you longed to do & it will help you when you go for interview as they are sure to ask what are you doing after leaving job....it sounds really positive when you reply ' am learning to cook OR I have joined gym..........

secondly ,who says entertainment needs money.......go to parks,go to malls,library..........

 

RIhana will you take tutions to give sensible answers!
For free

 

Hey flower
Already lot of members have given you good advice ,I can just add that try to keep busy and even if you are not working , follow a routine. It will keep your mind busy.
Take this as a oppertunity to learn something new. Try to find a hobby which does not cost much, like cooking, gardening or anything you like.
Also one thing , I hope you don't find it rude but to be honest no one likes a person who is always crying and gloomy.agreed that you are in a difficult phase of your life but there are many people who loose jobs and then can better job after sometime. Although your husband should support you but may be he is under stress himself and in a way he is right it is just a job so chin up
Upgrade your skills, volunteer, do something for others and try to find happiness in yourself

My best wishes to you