does marriage brings this much change in friendship

Hey stressful..

Tell them that you expect their call and feel sad in a polite way.. Everyone havefamily and there may lot of issues.. i even forget many of my close friends bdays.. When things take heavy toll on our life,few things we forget unknowingly.. May be stress or tension can cause this. I dont think it could be intentional.. Please call them on your bday and just talk to them...

I feel you dont need to take this so serious.. its ok.. you can them and talk on your bday.. that will be nice and easy too..

 

i have written this before, life is a like going on a train all the others are co passengers,they have left at their station, u have to lead ur life till ur end reaches that is death. nothing is going to be with u, keep this in mind always, u will never feel depressed. r u sure ur relative, spouse , kids etc are going to be with u and going to behave nicely with u when time passes on etc. just stop calling ur friends and move on. no point on clinging to past.

 

Even I faced this situation in my life, I have 2best friends one in India and one in USA. As long as iam in India then the friend in India used to be very close and and we always used to celebrate our bday parties together and my friend in USA least bothered. Now iam in USA, friend in India forgot everything and friend in USA now wishes on my bday every year.... I call both of them no matter where iam on their birthdays and anniversaries so at times distance and time zones also matter may be ...
Everyone busy in their own family lives so I just talk to both of them once in a while and that's it , no expectations like how we used to be in past when we were together ... I feel now iam old enough so no need of that wishes and bday parties we used to do when we were young so I got over with that but I keep in touch with them

 

There is always Skype. She could have called if she was really interested. Move on.

 

when anyone becomes a NRI , it becomes an unwritten rule that they should call whether it is a friend or sibling or inlaws......

this is what I am seeing since years from so many. but the funny part in this is the telephone rates in India is the cheapest , compared to most of the countries in the world.

one more reason is they are always busy with people, friends and family, and we are not. we feel lonely most of the times and have enough time to think of them and call i think.

 

Even the friends I mentioned in my life I know them since 5th standard so we just grew up together no matter which college we went later in life . Initially I used to get hurt when they didn't remember my bday and even if I want to forget I never forgot their bday dates so may be its my personality ...
Plz don't get stuck that they are forgetting and you are remembering . If you still want to just ask them in casual way how come you people are forgetting (may be they will give some answer to your question) and whatever it be just move on ...
We should be at peace and clear in our heart, so just wish them and don't expect them to wish you then only u can live burden free

 

You ask / tell them straight that you expect their call. If they still miss, shout at them. If they still, go to first line of my comment. After all, they are your good friends and you are OK even if its a one-way road for next mile or so. All the best