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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Ishita1031, Feb 25, 2008.

  1. Ishita1031

    Ishita1031 New IL'ite

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    my mil n sil r troubling me a lot. both keep on intefering all d time. i m preganant n want to remain happy but my mils talks n sils inteference is making me extremely frustrated. i dont kno how to b at peace n reamin happy. everyday i am crying coz i dont have any friends here. nor my hubby is with me. i m really sick of this situation! nowhr to go n no happiness anywhr.
     
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  2. padmavathi m

    padmavathi m Silver IL'ite

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    dear ishita,

    congratulations and celebrations dear

    let me first congratulate that you have become pregnant. loads of wishes to you and your little and cute baby inside you................. so how many months pregnant you are................
    dont you feel very happy about it................ come on cheer up dear............... its such a wonderful thing to become a mother dear............
    just forget all that you are undergoing with your mil and sil. i will not tell you to keep patience and wait....................
    yes every human undergoes this phase of life.
    now that you have come to indusladies dont worry
    whenever time permits please visit all the forums. you will get to know more friends, more beautiful things on earth, more on health, more on schools which you will have to plan for your baby...................within other few months.
    everyday you gaze at the sky and stars, trees, see how wonderful things GOD Almighty has created for us................. i will keep posting to you to regularly if you dont mind..................
    bye dear
    take care.
    love
    padma
     
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    Hi Ishita,

    Congrats on your pregnancy. This is the time you should feel happy because your emotions can affect the developing baby. If you are not comfortable at your MILs place, why dont you go to your parents' house for sometime? Normally pregnant girls visit parents often na. Give that as an excuse and go. It will be a change in environment and you will definitely feel better. Is your hubby working elsewhere? You can come back when your hubby is back, at least then situation might change in his presence. Right now, all that you need is peace of mind and well being for a healthy pregnancy. All other issues can be sorted out later with your husband's intervention.

    Take good care of yourself,
    Radhee.



     
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    hydgrr Bronze IL'ite

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    Please try to be happy during this time as it will effect your baby. Also go to your parents house as suggested in previous post and be happy there till you can move to your husband's place.

    -priya
     
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    chinmunni New IL'ite

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    hi ,

    First of all let me tell you consider me as your sister or a friend who has gone thru this phase as exactly as you.
    Mine was a love marriage with opposition from inlaws not parents. My hubby wanted me to impress his people so i used to keep my mouth shut. When i got pregnant my m-in-law will not give me food and used to give away all the cooked food to her daughter who was working and who stays close by. I used to buy readymade items like bread,biscuit,coconut water etc she used to give away even that to her grand children.
    Now one day i shouted on the top of my voice...dont know from where the courage came but i finally did after deciding that being educated and literate i will not allow their tantrums anymore.From that day on many incidents my m-in-law used to (tried to) again do the same but i used to shout at her more than her.She wud not allow me to have tea,coffee used to say you waste milk,cook on high flame etc then i said why dont u make and give me, did u not have anything while you carried my husband when you were pregnant etc...she just kept quiet.

    So my dear friend, i can say from my experience that a woman has to become strong from inside if she has to face this world and set an example to her kids. Neither dad nor hubby nor brother nor any body else will go out of the way and stand for you 24X7, unless you strengthen yourself from inside no one rescue you. I might sound a bit harsh but this is the fact of life.THe more you bend the more people will try to ground you. So dont worry and gather the strength, pray to god, have faith in yourself and face the situation. After all its your hubbys child also, let him also take your side.I know sometimes men are sandwiched b/w the two women so its upto us to handle the situation.
    Let the wheel of fortune turn in your favour.Dont worry too much it will affect your health.No God has made a rule that you should be unhappy....cmon cheer up....many of us in Indusladies are here to help you.
    You can count on me anytime,
    all the best
    CM
     
  6. padmavathi m

    padmavathi m Silver IL'ite

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    hi ishita,

    how are you dear.................how is your li'l one doing inside you...........no news from you so i thought let me say a hi to you and your lil one.........

    love
    padma
     
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    padmavathi m Silver IL'ite

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    dear hopeforgood

    its a nice id you have..................rightly said....when we idle, unwanted things come to our mind, the only way we can come out of it, spend some quality time for ourselves.............keep us happy..............

    love
    padma
     
  8. Ishita1031

    Ishita1031 New IL'ite

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    thanks 4 being thr . wats up with u??? hwz life at ur end?? good n happy? neways keep messagin me whenever u get ime. take care bye
     

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