ridiculously-nasty

:shock::shock:

 

I remember a funny incident when me,mil,my parents and sils in laws where attending a function together in India.My mil is all praise about her daughter all the time and without realizing her daughter's mil is present she told aloud that no one takes care of mil like my daughter does( actually my sil is in us and mil in India)... Hearing this my sils mil immediately said, my son is not even ALLOWED to come to India to see me and I have already decided he is no more my son after marriage. !! My parents did not know how to react and my mil and fil were speechless I was silently laughing within !!! Had it not been for my sils mil, my mil would have gone on and on
praising her daughter !

 

True!

My MIL says, in her own words (not grammar corrected "You were tired.....all you did was deliver a baby sitting sitting.....my son worked for half day standing standing.....he was more tired and needs sleep".

no wonder it is the "Then Husband"

 

my BIL and MIL stay separately and we both myself and hubby, my hubby does not speak to m mil because of her misdeeds and he is sorry for me for what I went through. Yesterday BIL called me and said that of mu Hubby is not ready to speak to his mom that is my mil than we should sign an agreement that we have np relation with them, ridicoulously funny isn't it?

 

O my god!! If impressing one's MIL needs such a nasty episode with another relative, I have a fat chance!

But :thumbsup to your relationship with your MIL. May it always remain like this..

 

Ive been married close to 5 yrs and staying with in-laws all these years but i was not aware that MIL was not satisfied with me taking care of her baby Son,until recently when she had complained to my Mom that i do not take care of my husband.
I know why she complains
1)DH will want dinner in the hall with each dosa served hot and MIL expects me to pamper him(i do that neverthless) ,but when it comes to her case she would shout at FIL and tell him to come to the dining table to have dinner.
2)MIL would expect all the household work,buying groceries,vegetables to be handled only by me,she would say why bother my Son,he is tired...But in her case she would chase my FIL to get things for her
3)All ground work should be done by me and only at the final decision level DH should be involved,but in her case like all you know --just the opposite

To add when i was pregnant MIL used to repeat everyday that she made my elder SIL fat because she had given her non-veg soups ,and that eating such extra food was not at all required,pregnant ladies also should eat the same food as everyone.I so much blindly believed her that i ate nothing more.Sometimes my mom would send fried fish and mutton.I did not put any weight at all.I was allowed to go to my mom's house a month before delivery and there i was looked after well.
But i saw her true color when my younger SIL had come for delivery,chicken and mutton soups were given every alternate day ,greens were made daily(MIL asked me to go and purchase telling me that greens are mandatory for a pregnant mother).Shark fish curry once in every 2 days.Those days were the worst,i used to cry thinking the days she starved me,how could she do that to me,to my baby, i understood the value of my mother only that time .

 

funny and upsetting at the same time...If i start writing here about my in-laws, it is going to take forever ;-) But here are few:

1. When i got married (7 yrs ago) and reached my PIL after 9 hrs of journey by car...it was 1 am by the time we reached their place. Meantime, no one asked us for dinner (me and my husband)...we came with my DH sister and her husband. However my inlaws with entire extended family stopped their bus to have dinner at some restaurant...My inlaws were speaking to my DH sister all the way to check where we have reached...
Anyhow, all of them reached at 3am and we were made to wait outside in cold weather (early february) until they reach so that they can do entering ceremony even though we were staying outside that night and i was dressed up in wedding clothes and jewelery..IMAGINE!!!
Then, finally when they reached they just told me to get in and did few games and then my MIL takes me to corner and says where is your jewelry that your parents gave you, we have to show to all relatives (3:30AM in the morning)...So, i gave her the suitcase with keys...she opens all the boxes and says to me "Your parents gave you small small sets" UHHHHHHH...my parents gave me 4 gold sets (medium size) and she gave me only 1 (small size)...i didnt answer her back but i was so surprised to hear such words that too few hours after wedding....and then she said same thing in front of all relatives..Now when i think back, i feel i was so innocent and young that time...never knew someone can taunt you like this...but in all these years, i have become very strong

I WILL WRITE MORE IN FEW MINUTES..I AM AT WORK....ha ha

 

2. They didnt decorate their car to bring us newlywed home because they thought they will get attacked by goons on our way to Delhi..Also, they brought the smallest car they had for doli and left their good car back home in delhi....Usually people take better comfortable cars even just for long drive but i guess they did it on purpose:rant

3. The next day was reception and my parents came all they way to Delhi to attend. Me and my DH were supposed to visit my parents in 2 days but they asked my inlaws if they can take us with them next morning because they had hired big taxi and had lot of space. My mother in law says to my mom, "your daughter is married now so not your daughter anymore, now we will decide when she can go....:idontgetit:

 

3. One more, 2 days after wedding when me and my husband went home (PILs) from the hotel...few relatives were still there..So, i go and touch my husband's grandfather's feet and he says "Nautanki karne ki zaroorat nahin hai"...HA HA...i mean sometimes i want to ask such people "Are you perfect idiots by birth or is today some occassion"???:confused2::confused2::confused2:

 

Reading all the mil stories here, I think every DIL has to do a course in phsycology before getting married...coz most of the in laws seem to be NUTS of the highest order....so we must be prepared from day 1 to handle them !
Also Hopefully, I am shocked to hear your story..are there such mils even today? I mean , I have heard my mom say this is how she was treated when pregnant 30 years back !!! Mil starving my mom but asking my mom to cook healthy food when her daughter came for delivery ! Huh! I guess time,education NOTHING can change in laws...they are just meant to be MEAN...if they are genuine it's a rare phenomenon !!!!!