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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by mathangikkumar, Mar 19, 2011.

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  1. Nandshyam

    Nandshyam IL Hall of Fame

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    Fact:

    Indian cosmetics market is reportedly growing 10-20% annually. And the driving product - Skin whitening creams for both sex.

    As long as such people exist, India will be dragged further further into the black hole. Good luck in reforming India !!!
     
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    Mods: I am really surprised you left this thread without any action. I am offended that we allow such sadistic threads out in IL.

    She says she is not judging anyone or clearly not for color or caste and yet her posts speaks otherwise.

    I have this ****ty feeling after reading this thread (Thanks to Dancer for your new thread that I had to read this on India's 66th birthday).

    India will never be beautiful even if she hits 100, because of such shallow minded people still out here !!
     
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  3. shambavi2000

    shambavi2000 Silver IL'ite

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    hello there

    seems like there's a wide chasm in communication not just a gap out here. Looks like the focus is shifting from the subject of the post to the author of the post. Anyway, we all have the right to disagree with anyone or anything, but we can disagree without being disagreeable, i suppose.lets agree to disagree and move on. And God said 'Let there be Peace' and peace there shall be!Love all!
     
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  4. satchitananda

    satchitananda IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear Friends,

    I agree with Shambavi here. Let us discuss the point under discussion and express our disagreement or agreement with the opinions posted here. Let us discuss the topic / post, not the poster.
     
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    If you talking about the quality of spouse, then why color, caste and facial features of would be kids matter? If someone is marrying out of his choice with a person for love then then he/she wont go by reasons of others. A person might be be average looking but can be very good at heart, other people can't see it and the person marrying he/she will know this so I don't think it's right on others part to comment on the pairs look. When they are not concerned about it, why others bother about it. The couple must have seen how they look together, at the end they want to be happy together.

    I don't understand why you are talking about the looks of the person so much, or why he married the girl when it's none of ur concern. At the same time u say u don't think of color n caste and believe in quality of spouse for home! Then why this couple's looks are bothering you so much that u r talking about it on IL? Same way whether they get any visitor or not is none of your business then why are u so interested in talking about their married life?

    As long as they are happy together nothing else matter and no one should be judgmental about the couple and their would be kids or whether they are happy as a couple or not.
     
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    God,

    Nothing to comment in detail, as I feel the same way like e-indian sis and Rihana sis......you ppl really cooled me, after reading this post, by your comments......

    Well said satchi akka....leaving without having dinner after giving gifts.....no where happening even in this whole Universe I think...And how you guess dark n well complexed ppl, cant be in true love.???..( read it in the comments for the post )...This kinda thoughts only shows immaturity........and sharing our thoughts in a public forum is correct..But we should make it sensible, useful, encouraging to every readers.....if she want to convey, still ppl are judging things based on complexion , which though happens, not correct...........then why she s not ready to say a good story ( happening atleast once , in every 10 marriages , even in higher proportion I feel ), Couple with difference in complexion, living happily , and so, nothing to go with it....
    Why always so much negative thoughts????????? making readers to feel bad and offended......

    Vasu......
     
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    hi ma'am

    i believe you are a teacher and for all your experience and age, you might have come across a lot of situations where you would learnt things....so kindly share with all those things without the negative comments in them please.

    Between me and my husband, i am better looking. And whenone looks at us, they always say how fair and beautiful i am and how dark he is. People tend to think they are paying me a compliment but trust me, they hurt me a lot with this ocmment. reason, am i worth only the way i look. I am far better a person than what i seem and trust me my husband is a thousand times more wonderful human being than i am. So why all this comments.

    Also my son is very dark. So when people look at him they remark how fair i am and how dark he is and all. But i dont let them get away after talking like that. As you had mentioned int he post that your daughter is wheatish but your son is fair and that is how the world perceives it - so what if the whole world calls them wheatish, as a mom, i shouldnt be thinking like that else it would hurt him a lot. He is my Krishna and my cutie pie.

    For one, since i grew in a place where almost everyone used to think and talk things the way you do, i kind of dont feel so offended coz i have been facing this for quite some time.
     
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    my two bits...

    My paternal grandmother was pitch dark while my grandfather was pink-more european than the olive tone. They had one of the best mariages ever...and I can't remember anyone commenting on their color difference ever.

    On the other hand, my mother's family is extremely color conscious...and as I am the darkest in a light skinned family I used to get ribbed a lot. On top of it I moved back to India from Africa, so they loved to comment on the child they exchanged with an African family...

    Not surprisingly it was my father who got mad at the comments...but my mother looked at me and said,
    "Are you dark skinned?"
    "yes!"
    "You accept it as a fact? Then that is all it is!"

    And truth is, that is all it is, a fact. If there is a problem, then it remains so for the others and not for me or my family. Sometimes you have to take others with a pinch of salt. That's all.

    If my mom had got defensive or all upset then I probably would have a complex. As such I don't give my looks any second thought, except that I like to be well groomed. Now that would annoy me about myself because that is something within my control and I failed to take care of myself.
     
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    To OP,

    You are entitled to your views and so is everyone.Yeah I agree with your post that society gives too much importance to colour of the skin.But what I and lot of members here do not agree is your views about it.You claim that you are not for any caste or colour and it is the quality of spouse which matters yet you consider it "bad luck" because of the fact that your daughter is wheatish?Come on,you are mature and way more experienced than me and most of us here,its a shame that you don't use that in a positive way.As a teacher and mother,you should be preaching to your daughter and students that everyone is beautiful in their own unique way,its the inner beauty that matters most.You have said that its the society's perception of beauty and its wrong,but you are just going with the flow and you accept it.For society to change ,you must first change.Change should happen first within you,then family and then society.
     
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    hi op!
    another controversial thread from you!
    If i had any positive opinion about you(0.1%) , all that is finished after reading this post.
    do you even think before you write???
    marriage is not just about looks , if it was so all good looking people would be happily married!
    I am a north indian and most of the people in my family are very fair and goodlooking, my dh is from south and he is not so fair. when we married there were enough people who poked fun like you but thankfully my family is not so narrow-minded like you. after marriage with his behaviour he has made a place for himself in everyone's heart in my family.infact im amused when my relatives who would earlier say nasty things now wish they get son in law like him!
    people were so mean they would joke , how ill your kids be , will they be like zebra or dalmatians ? just because im fair n he is dark , they thought they could say nasty things!
    you know what somehow you are a very shallow person , you need to open your mind , and see beyond colour , and even the dresses people wear and not pass comments about anyone just on basis of what your shallow mind sees!

    I want to write more but honestly i dont waste my energy and time , you anyway want to stir controversies only!
     
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