Hai, Iam new to Indusladies. Is there any on-line chat facilites over here? Discussions regarding "Anger management towards Kids" Love, Indhu
hi indhu Welcome to il. You mean anger management as parents/r your kid's anger. you can discuss it with us..we can share our experiences and helping each other... how old are your kids..mine are 12(daughter) and 9(son)
Hai Shanthi, My Son, just completed 2 years old (as u know), very naughty nowadays. Not to manage him. I am loosing my temper. but trying to control. How to make him understand anything which is not to be done???? like - he know he should not urinate in the hall or bedroom, he was actually telling before that he wanted to urinate and ask me to take to the bathroom, but purposly he is doing now. i don't know what to do. but when i ask him he is telling in the bathroom i have to go, but not in practice. so only theory he is strong, practical he is weak. what to do, as a senior mother advice me shanthi.
I'd be glad if someone could post me tips on anger management... My daughter is 3yrs ...though she is not very naughty...she seems to follow my trend of getting angry..MONKEY SEE..MONKEY DO... I have seen many americans here who never get angry or yell at their kids even if the kids irritate them...are they born with such a gene?I'm really wondering... I just want to put an end to my yelling at her...so she doesnt follow my footsteps... Ladies pls help...
Hi all, I have a 4 year old, and this is what i do when she loses her temper. I make her sit ( not time-out ) in a chair or her favourite place and instruct her not to move out and take deep breaths until she calms down. - it sit close to her doing my own work, but not talk to her. After a while, she comes to me apologizing and that's when i ask her why she had such a behaviour and talk to her to get it sorted out and make her realize that there is a better way to do things.. So, its working for me. Yelling back or losing our temper will not be helpful. 2. If the kid is little older - best idea is practise meditation , applies to adults too!. 3. If the child is younger, less than 3 years - don't try to tell them "not to do it", they cannot understand, instead, there are books, shows on TV that teach how to eat, who to use the potty, try those!. They are too young for verbal communication. ...and is the best way i can think of to raise the children!. - Shilpa
Hi Shravanthika, One good thing to follow from Americans is to control the kids without beating or shouting. As you yourself don't want your daughter to follow your trend of getting angry, remember that as the first thing when you are about to shout. For kids we use the Star technique to make them behave good. Like when they do something good and behave good, we give them stars. You prepare a chart for yourself. Give yourself a Start when you have controlled yourself and stopped shouting. The less stars you get, more you feel guilty and probably your kid will tease you on that. So thats one best way. Also you can learn Yoga and meditation to control anger. Meditation is what most of the people suggest. Cheers, Malar
Thanx malar and shilpa..for your valuable suggestions...both tricks seem to tackle kids in a positive way.........I shall try it out...........
