Handling my in-laws

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Since you feel your DH was good, give him a chance. You taking neccesary steps to teach your mil a lesson and tactics to handle your DH should save your marriage. Dont get disappointed have faith in you.

My case, DH told the same thing about me, I have decided not to tolerate this nonsense, if I should live with him he better think twice before he speaks, if not I am ready to live my life alone.

 

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My only suggestion now is just face it with courage. Just calm down, and when they question you tell that you were hurt with him making those remarks on you. And let them decide what they have to for now. just wait. But I dont think you have to even think about asking for any apologies from your side. They might be wanting that from you. Make sure you keep your calm after what you say.

 

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I just want to say:bowdown:bowdownbecause atleast finally you STOOD UP.

BE BRAVE and BE BOLD. whatever mistake your parents had made by telling you to bear it. dont repeat it please.

AGAIN, just be calm and watch the show and do your ground work at the back. Call up womens protection cell and explain the scene and ask for a lawyer and discuss teh fee and what should be the proceedings etc incase if you have to proceed with this...

 

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Yes I am sure his mom was waiting for this. I had emotionally moved away from her and was just focusing on my life.

We'll if god whom I call as father does not help me, my marriage is done.

 

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Just wait n watch calmly. lets see how things go by when he goes to visit his parents. What if things settle down and he comes back home normally...pls just dont dig all this crap. Be calm and normal, but start trying to get your life back on track.

Lets see what happens after he meeting with his parents. somehow I am thinking he would just tell his mom to let go whatever happened..and that it was his fault etc..etc...

 

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Im sending lots of positive vibes your way to handle the crisis. I owe you this gesture as you had helped me with a lovely post last year to handle my inlaws, which i can never ever forget.


You are a very matured,intelligent and caring person (i gather that from your posts). I will pray for you and hope for the best.

 

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My sincere advise to you ladies.

If your mother in law spoils your name to your family, friends and social circle. Pls do not keep mum thinking that as long as husband understands it is ok. She has been doing a lot of ground work against me and has turned almost every one in my life and so i pretty much have no support.

 

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Think of your future. Paying alimony, providing house has scared many Hs of a divorce . These type of bullies think that we are still living in the dark ages where the wife can be thrown out without a paisa. Once the wife shows that she is aware of her rights they calm down .

If the Divorce does happen then it will take a long time , the wife is entitled to maintenance and lawyers fees throughout the procedure. Let him set the ball rolling as a wife does not get alimony if she asks for D .

If you decide to stay with him then do so on your terms. But do let your family and friends know about the situation as a safeguard. Get a few properties transferred in your name.
Think about the welfare of yourself , your child and your future.

 

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As suggested by Vidya please find a job now however small it is, in 2-3 years you will be better off, most of us started off with minimum wage.

 

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If inlaws are harrassing their DIL, its not inlaws fault...ITS THE FAULT of the SON i.e the husband WHO IS NOT STANDING UP ....either out of fear or greed or out of love...doesnt matter what the reasons are....

Now that you stood up for yourself...going forward set this as baseline, the moment someone starts talking crap..cut them into pieces, answer them back....if something has to happen it will happen...