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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by sheebros, Dec 18, 2010.

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  1. Rakhii

    Rakhii Moderator IL Hall of Fame

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    Re: Husband habit of drinking -good / bad

    I realize its just going to be a waste of time trying to make my point with you. Its ok...you stick with your view and I will with mine.
     
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    Did it occur to you that it will go straight to my heart too if you call me an alcoholic without having any idea about my life style?

    Anyway...Peach dear; Merry Christmas and a Very Happy New year.
     
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    I have been sending this message in a subtle way right from the beginning:thumbsup.You got it.Thanks!
     
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    SriVidya, let me make stand clear here. My husband was living overseas all his life and I for over 15 years now. I am not sure if you would believe me when I say this but ALL my friends and ALL my relatives make sure that they have designated drives or cab services attending to us when we do take a drink.

    By law (at least where I live), if we host a party, it is the responsibility of the host to make sure that the guest reaches home safe (call a cab or have a designated driver or get them to sleep over). and FYI, by law (and also by my moral standards), when we have kids in our party, it ends by 10 PM. ANd ALL MY FRIENDS AND RELATIVES FOLLOW THIS RULE.

    Yes, i agree that split second is all it takes for a life changing accident. What I am saying is that, not ALL people who take alcohol behave irresponsibly.

    If you see next time that parents drive with even a single drink, it is our responsibility to make sure that they reach safe. If you become an elephant in the room for that, who cares? I dont. There were many times I threatened a colleague that I would call a cop if he attempts to take his car keys from me.

    The bottom line is, just because I drink, it doesn't make me a bad person.
     
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    Hello Moderators::hiya:hiya

    Where are you now?? Almost from last more than 3 pages there has been continous ongoing one to one attacks with no OP in sight and you are still continuing this thread......
    May I ask why?

    Is it because the moderator herself is posting and strongly, very strongly, debating....or otherwise.....'trying to push in her views with too many words that mean all the same'..... !!!

    Ridiculous to say that some of my posts and sometimes just one post that had some serious one on one discussion was deleted saying it served no purpose to the OP. One of my thread was completely closed even without the slightest hint to me.

    So,can I ask .... what are these last 3 to 4 pages in anyway being beneficial to the OP??

    Where has all that moderating or better call it.... 'censoring' gone??

    OH! So when the moderator jumps into it with full swing then the thread is let go any direction....right?......
    Perfectly ridiculous.....:biglaugh:biglaugh:biglaugh!!!

    ok guys!!!.... steer this thread whichever direction you wish to.....no worries....the moderator is with you this time!!!..............:thumbsup:thumbsup
     
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    Re: Husband habit of drinking -good / bad

    This thread is really giving some bad taste so let me add something yummy :)..For all wine haters n lovers just one suggestion for Christmas n New year..:)

    Just have some champagne with chocolate dipped strawberries in a candle light dinner set up or have some white wine with grilled chicken,oysters and Duck breast with dozen rose stems decorated beautifully :) Just taste it n u will come to know :rotfl:rotflOk Ok I understand and I am just kidding.( No intelligent suggestions from this foodie :crazy)

    All I am trying to say We need to grow up n see life in a broader perspective.We all are coming from different families,different backgrounds with a totally different outlook.Lets respect each other as an individual n enjoy Christmas n New year now..( But TRY my suggestion:rotflI know I know I should be silent now but couldnt stop myself..actually guys forgive me I am just in a festive mood ):crazy

    Merry Christmas and A very Happy New Year to all of you..all wine lovers n haters :rotfl(oh again i started :biglaugh)

    Best Regards
    Stuti
     
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    Hi Rakhii,

    I appreciate you and your family members with utmost sincerity, if you guys are able to implement the above said rule every time. "Safety first", you guys have understood it and are implementing the same also.

    Good...!
     
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    Dear all,

    Even though the OP is not around or people have diffrent views about drinking and stuff.. i coundnt stop replying to this thread after going through all these discussion..

    whoever feels that there is no harm in boozing when you know your limits and stuff, has a very good lifestyle and rules set in their families and enjoy those parties. but i will say In a country like India not everyone has cars or designated drives or drivers( me hearing for the first time, since i dont know much about US lifestyle) its very very unsafe to drink..it has created enourmous harm to many people here since they dont know their limits..

    Sad thing is when people in forign countries enjoy their cold weather and drinks and have a safe way of dealing with such a occasional habit, here its just a imitation of forign culture without even knowing how to deal with it..

    Not everyone has a healthy lifesytle of gyming, swimming, yoga and regular health checkup habits whcih is important for people weather they drink or not. but the fact is not all are following it due to several resons like financial status, multiple resposibilites, kids etc ( not a justifcaiton though)..so would drinking save them from getting affected with life threating disceases like heart attacks and cancers not at all..

    So if anyone is saying social drinking doesnt harm, or when you know your controls doesnt harm etc. please add a clause " provided you follow, Swimming, gyming, any form of excercise, regular health checkup, keeping designated drivers to avoide accidents etc" really important.

    otherwise "Drinking is injurious to health"
     
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    Hi Stuti,

    There are enough number of foodies here......(you are not alone).....planning their New Year eve already. We do not get Champagne here in India. We take Old Munk rum , with pepsi...........pepsi put only to the extent to give little sweet taste, not masking the bitterness of rum............with lemon pickles..........!! Wondering how ? Lemon pickles go well with black rum. I and my male friends (and a few Punjabi women here too) take rum with pickles. Then plates of chicken tikka dry will be circulated and we eat the chicken pieces one by one.

    This is a desi way of enjoying New Year Eve..!
     
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    Re: Husband habit of drinking -good / bad

    Tara

    If something came across to you as very offensive please report the post, we will take action accordingly...there are no separate rules for anyone.

    Rakhi and TC

    I guess I thought I am putting forward my point, and if you felt this is going one on one instead of a healthy discussion, report those posts, am open to edit them out...

    Here the intention was not to get personal or one on one.

    I alway ssaid everyone is entitled to their opinion. but I wont agree if someone says whatever I choose for my family is wrong and how their suggestion only will work...and am totally fine when you say you wont agree with my way of doing things...because we all are individuals no two people may think alike...

    Neither am I calling a person who drinks as bad / good. Its all individual choice..

    however just all of us has to keep in mind that if someone has drinks once in a while or doesnt drink at all...it doesnt mean that its ok for others also...why not let others choose what they want to do with their families or husband...we shouldnt make fun of them saying ohh she wants to control a grownup or adult i.ethe husband etc. or oh that person drinks so they are bad kind of thoughts...(This was my sole point.)


    Having said that am going to take leave from this thread..as I see that when I put forward my views its taken as moderator is pushing her word..instead of actually looking at as another view point.
     
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